EXPERT ADVICE: My Ex has Moved on but I Still Love Her

My Ex has Moved on but I Still Love Her - Man looking at picture of ex girlfriend

YOUR FEELINGS DID NOT walk out of your life when your girlfriend did. The feelings linger: you miss her. You are tempted to call her and tell her how much you want her back.

Walking away from a meaningful relationship is never easy

It is completely normal to be still attached to your ex-girlfriend: loving your ex-girlfriend long after a breakup is perfectly ok. After spending so much time being close and intimate, it makes sense to be stuck in love. Detaching yourself is even harder when the breakup was not your decision.

According to relationship experts, just because you broke up with your girl does not mean that the feeling of love stops. Indeed, therapists indicate that many people still love their exes for some time after the breakup. Being hung up on your ex-girlfriend is nothing to be alarmed about.

“Love’s favorite thing to do is to stick around when it isn’t convenient”

To get back with your ex-girlfriend or not, especially after she has already moved on?

The act of getting over the end of a relationship is not easy.

Sometimes, when a relationship ends, you may doubt whether breaking up was the right thing to do.

You will know for sure that the relationship was not healthy, and you will be perfectly aware that she no longer wants to be with you, but somehow, you will still feel that the relationship should not be over. And you will be convinced that if you give the relationship one more chance, the outcome will indeed be different.

Things are even more confusing when your ex-girlfriend decides to move on. The main part of breakup pain is not being able to understand how she can just move on with her life. How can she just disregard what you had?

  • So, apparently, she didn’t love you that much in the first place
  • The relationship didn’t mean that much to her; she is finding the break up easy while you are still in pain.
  • She was probably seeing another guy behind your back

Just because she’s moved on, does it mean she’s over you?

But, according to relationship therapists, it is possible that all the thoughts above aren’t true. Just because your ex-girlfriend has seemingly moved on doesn’t mean that she is over you, or that she doesn’t still love you, or that the relationship didn’t matter to her.

Many times people move on into a new relationship because they think that they will fill the void of a breakup. What if this is the case with your ex-girlfriend? Maybe she has moved on hoping to fill the void of being without you, which she cannot handle alone.

This could be a band-aid to heal the wound in her heart temporarily. ‘Moving on’ for your ex-girlfriend could be a coping mechanism for the loneliness that she feels after the breakup.

“When a relationship ends, there is a tendency to ‘cherry-pick’ and only think about the stuff that was nice in the relationship.”

According to relationship experts, you should pursue your ex-girlfriend if:

The fact that your ex-girlfriend has moved on should, therefore, not discourage you from pursuing her. However, it is essential to determine whether it is a good idea to get back with your ex-girlfriend, depending on the nature of your breakup.

You broke up due to bad timing

According to Kristen Mark, assistant professor at the University of Kentucky, many couples break up due to bad timing rather than more fundamental issues. As such, if the couple gets back together, the new relationship has excellent chances of survival. Could this be you and your ex-girlfriend?

You have remained friends even after the breakup

Result by a 2014 study by the National Bureau of Economics revealed that ex-partners who remain friends even after they have separated are twice more likely to establish a stable relationship the second time around.

If your friendship has remained stable even after the breakup and your communication is uncompromised, you have a better chance of building a healthy new relationship with your ex-girlfriend.

You had a great relationship

How would you describe your former relationship? Did you have honesty, trust, respect and excellent communication? If your relationship was healthy in all these four areas, you could say that your relationship was great. And you know what, you have the chance to create a fantastic relationship once again.

The breakup was a rash decision

Sometimes people break up because of pride and ego. This kind of a breakup is often not well thought out. You said something, or she said something, the other person overreacted and left. If this was the case, your feelings are intact, and you can still build a strong relationship.

Could your relationship have suffered from a circumstantial breakup? Sometimes, couples break up because one of the partners had to relocate to another city for college or business. In such a case then it is worth a try to get back together as long as the circumstances have changed.

Did you know: Research shows that one-third of cohabiters and one-fifth of spouses have experienced a breakup and renewal in their current relationship?

When pursuing your ex-girlfriend is a bad idea

Research shows that we are attracted to what is familiar to us. This is known as the Law of Familiarity. A study by UCLA psychological researchers revealed that when you invest time, energy, money and physical contact on a person, you tend to describe more value to them. No wonder you are so drawn to your ex-girlfriend even when you know better.

Combined with a man’s innate desire to fix what is broken, it is inevitable that you will miss your ex-girlfriend even when the two of you together just can’t work.  There are, therefore, many cases when getting back together with your ex-girlfriend will not yield a happy ending.

“Falling out of love seems to be a process that is painstakingly longer than falling in love is”

The fact that you still love your ex-girlfriend or you miss her is not a good reason to get back with her. Other factors that are poor reasons for pursuing a relationship with your ex-girlfriend include:

  • Feeling miserable without your ex-girlfriend
  • Thinking you cannot live without her
  • Still believing she is your soul mate
  • You cannot imagine a life without her

According to a 2013 study by Kansas State University, many couples who reconnect after a breakup assume that their partners have changed for the better. They also get back together with the assumption that this time around they will communicate better.

As such they do not work at ironing out important issues. This subsequently affects the new relationship negatively.

  • Further research shows that people who date their ex-partners:
  • Have worse communication
  • Make more decisions that negatively affect the relationship
  • Have a lower self-esteem
  • Have a higher uncertainty about the future

The verdict

We will not tell you whether to get back to your ex-girlfriend or not, because no two situations are exactly the same. However, there is an easy formula to help you make the decision.

Relationship therapists recommend that you give the relationship an honest assessment. Consider both the good and the bad experiences that stand out from the relationship. Doing this will help you understand why things ended and whether you want to avoid or replicate the situation.

You may miss your ex-girlfriend terribly, and this ok. But, if you are not convinced that getting back with her is a wise decision you need to let her go. Getting back with your ex-girlfriend is sometimes a quick fix. But honestly, it’s not always the answer.

“Trust your intuition, trust your worth, and dare to venture on the other side of discovery. It may be difficult, but it is much sweeter than getting back into a relationship that will only bring you sorrow.”

6 Signs of Being Pushed Away by Your Girlfriend

Signs of Being Pushed Away - Girlfriend looking distant
Signs of Being Pushed Away - Girlfriend looking distant

SOMETHING CHANGED…

You can’t quite put your finger on it; all you know is that there’s a different vibe.

She’s put up a wall has gone up, and you are wondering what is happening.

The fact:

Every man has gone through this: it does not matter how rich or good looking you are, or how stable your relationship is. Your woman will at some point pull away from you.

Why does a woman pull away?

  • You are clingy
    • A woman will push you away if you keep chasing her. No matter how many good qualities you possess, you will come off as unappealing when you get clingy.
  • You lack confidence
    • If you exhibit a lack of self-worth, your woman will push you away. Women are wired to look up to their men, and it is hard to admire and rely on a man who lacks confidence.
  • It is a coping mechanism
    • If your girl was hurt before, pushing you away is a coping mechanism for perceived eventual hurt. What do you know about your girlfriend’s previous love life?
  • You have had one too many fights
    • Sometimes, your relationship may have just run its course. You have been fighting and making up. She is tired and is ready to move on.
  • She is unable to forgive you
    • You might have done something that hurt her deeply. Even though you have presumably solved an issue, somewhere deep down, it is still bothering her.
  • She is falling too quickly
    • If the relationship is getting too serious too fast, your girlfriend might get scared. If she feels as if things are going out of control, she will pull away, hoping to keep the relationship with a certain boundary.
  • She doesn’t see a future with you
    • This might sound harsh, but partners do fall out of love suddenly and mysteriously. When this happens, your woman might pull away instead of ending the relationship there and then. She doesn’t want to be the bad guy. She hopes that you will take the cue and end the relationship.

6 Signs that your girlfriend is pushing away

They say that ignorance is bliss, but not in this case. The earlier you realize that your relationship could be in trouble, the sooner you can take measures to restore it.

Here are some signs of being pushed away by your girlfriend.

1. You are no longer part of her plans

When she was still into you, she was super excited to make plans with you. Recently, however, she is dodging plans and cancelling last minute, a little too often. If this is happening, it could mean that she is either indecisive about the relationship and she is preferring to do something else than spending time with you.

If your woman is having doubts about the relationship, she will also weed you out of her social life. Is she going for parties all by herself, attending weddings alone, and going bar hopping sessions with her friends, all which you previously did together? This is a sure shot sign that she no longer feels the same about you.

2. Communication between the two of you ceases

When communication patterns change, it is a crucial sign that your woman is unhappy in the relationship. Your girlfriend’s good morning messages, late night calls and texts will become less frequent. Even though she may not be calling it quits, she could be taking the time to put things into perspective.

3. Your girlfriend is more quiet than usual

You will notice that your girlfriend is becoming more withdrawn and will open to you less and less. It’s date night and you are in a nice restaurant, or you are taking a walk in the park, but you will feel like she is not there physically. Indeed, you will feel as if she is tolerating your presence; as if she wishes she was elsewhere. This is a clear indication that your girlfriend is no longer emotionally available to you.

4. Sex isn’t the same anymore

When the chemistry in a couple is affected, sex is one of the first things to suffer. If you find that your woman is no longer excited about the things that she loved doing in bed, know that something is up. You might also notice that she no longer cares about the things that were important to her, like shaving her legs or bikini waxes. Her sexy lingerie now rests at the bottom of her drawer.

These small things are some of the most telling signs of her waning interest in the relationship.

5. She gives in easily during a fight

If there has been constant friction in the relationship, your girl will prefer to be complacent instead of fighting with you. If you notice that she walks out on you halfway through a fight or merely shrugs her shoulders and seems to give up, know that your girl is beginning not to care about the relationship.

Also, you will realize that she doesn’t bother to give you explanations anymore. A woman who is withdrawing from a relationship will no longer bother trying to explain things or reassure you when you feel aggrieved.

You will get angry and calm down by yourself, and you will not receive any explanation from her because she no longer cares enough to give you one.

6. She is disrespectful towards you

Nowadays, your girl is nitpicking and is easily annoyed. She gets super angry when you leave dishes out, and gets furious when you forget the toothpaste in the sink. While these things can really get under one’s skin, they didn’t seem to bother her before.

Her new temperament is characteristic of someone who is considering cutting things off and is starting to look for things to validate her decision. Your woman’s disrespect is a very telling sign that there’s not enough for her in the relationship anymore.

If you feel in your gut that you are losing your girlfriend’s respect, do not ignore the feeling. It is time to confront the situation before all doubts are cleared and you lose the relationship.

Attraction isn’t a choice; it’s a response

People don’t choose who they are attracted to. In other words, your woman responds to your confidence, how you communicate, how you treat her and other triggers. That means, if your girlfriend is pushing you away, there is a huge possibility that you have something to do with it.

Could it be because you no longer act as the man that she fell in love with? Are you possibly behaving in ways that turn you into an obligation for her? Have you neglected her needs?

This is an opportunity for you to take a hard look at yourself and your interactions with your girlfriend. It may have nothing to do with you, but if it is, there is no better time for you to move to save your relationship.

5 Experts Reveal The First 5 Steps In Order To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

How To Make Your Ex Want You Back - Woman walking away on the beach

How To Make Your Ex Want You Back - Woman walking away on the beach

EVERY SINGLE HUMAN-BEING FOLLOWS PROCESSES… 

It’s how we live our lives whether we know it or not

We don’t simply get a loaf of bread. We need to prepare the ingredients and put it in the oven first

It’s the same for relationships

How we get out of them, and how we get into them

Getting into a relationship has a process. Even with your Ex-Girlfriend. It’s simply a matter of following the right steps in the right order

She needs to feel a certain way first before she can feel anything else…

Recently I harassed some fellow relationship experts and asked them to give up their first 5 steps to getting an Ex-Girlfriend back

How they go about priming a woman’s mind to get her ready to give him another chance…

And with some arm twisting, they did.

The First  5 Steps to Successfully Getting Your Ex Back

STEP #1 – Noticing The Wall Your Ex Has Put Between the Two of You

I remember my first ever relationship, a couple of weeks before she broke up with me that there was something different…

She wasn’t as spontaneous, and looking back I think she had something on her mind

Dating expert Clay Andrews says that this is the first step in turning things around

You may be further down the line than this but it’s important to think back to when you noticed a shift in her

You’ll know because:

  • She stopped sharing things with you
  • She didn’t look at you the same way
  • She started cancelling plans all of a sudden

And although you may think the break-up came out of the blue, if you give it some thought it could help you reconsider…

Was there a day where things were different (like I noticed) or maybe it happened slowly over time?

Either way, the first step to getting your ex-girlfriend back is to notice when things tapered off…

If you’re having trouble pinpointing the situation, Clay has kindly put this video together to help…

And you can find out more about Clay’s teaching and program by taking this quiz here or find his eBook that’s titled ‘The 5 Phases to Get Your Ex Back’ here.

Step #2: Understand What Is Pushing Her Away

“There’s a huge misconception among men that if they upset their girlfriend then they’re going to lose her.” – Psychologist Christopher Canwell

Although it sounds like the opposite of what you should do, upsetting your girlfriend is NOT necessarily what is pushing her away (99% of the time at least)

Instead, it’s boring, being predictable and generally ‘playing it safe’. Your girlfriend wants to feel what it’s like to be a player in the game, ride the bumps, get knocked down occasionally, and score the winning goal…

Not watch from the sidelines

She wants to feel the range of emotion that comes from being with a man. It keeps her guessing, she loves the drama and uncertainty of it

Believe it or not, keeping her in this state has been scientifically researched and thought to increase attraction.

If you play it too nice and are too safe then she won’t feel these emotions, and she will start looking for someone who can give them to her…

The big take away here is not to overcompensate. It’s a trap that many guys fall into. A lot of guys think their girlfriend is going to leave them and they overcompensate by buying flowers, crying and saying ‘I can change for you’

She DOES NOT WANT YOU TO CHANGE. If anything she wants you to go back to the guy you were, the man that she once was attracted to and that she desired.

What type of guy were you when she desired you more than anyone? You can see more of Christopher’s advice about how to be that guy again here.

Step #3: Back off

This step follows right on from the previous step, and like most of Michael Sweeney’s advice it doesn’t mess around

‘Back off’ with your attention and affection

Here’s a question for you…

Has any of the following crossed your mind?

  • Calling her because you just need to tell her something that will make it all OK
  • Talking to her friends about convincing her to get back with you
  • Sending her messages on social media about how you want to commit to her

If they have then get them out of your mind. These ideas are coming out of neediness and aren’t attractive at all. They are not going to help you get her back

And if you have done any of these, then let’s agree right now that it needs to stop

Michael Sweeney says that these behaviors are actually pushing her further away…

So the third step is really about stopping something if you are doing it, not so much about doing something different

Michael says that women make decisions based on how they feel about the relationship they have with someone at that very moment

And if she feels that you need her (which these three behaviors demonstrate) she won’t want all the pressure and will run the other way

The trick is don’t ask her to be back with you when she doesn’t feel good towards you. She won’t give you the answer you are looking for

But when she:

  • Feels better about you
  • Is once again excited to see you
  • Starts making plans to hang out again

She will reconsider..

So how do you give her that giddy feeling she craves when she’s in your presence again? Michael reveals all in his book ‘Get Her Back: FOR MEN ONLY’ available here

Step #4:

(Part A) – If You Did Something To Cause the Breakup (i.e. cheating) Then Apologize

Step four is broken up into two parts because they go together

Firstly in part A, if you did something that caused the breakup, like cheating or just being overly stupid for a lot of the time then apologise

She needs to know that you are serious about this. And that it meant something when you said sorry

It’s vitally important that you do this honestly and sincerely

You can do it face to face, with SMS, but a letter (handwritten) I think is the best way to get the message across…

Why a letter? A letter gives her the power. She can read it when she wants, and take the time to process it how she likes

It’s also something that you don’t typically do (im guessing), so the communication channel hasn’t been potentially corrupted by fights, or mundane messages like ‘can you get the bread tonight?’ etc.

There’s also just something about receiving a handwritten letter. You know that someone has put time and thought about it. and there’s feeling in it

Anyhow, you need to tell her something like…

“I love you, but we both know that I’ve made a huge mistake. It’s something that I think about every day

I’d like to say that I’m strong enough not to fall into temptation again, but the truth is I need to become a better man

I know that I have hurt you by the way that you have acted. I understand that when you act out towards other people you are really venting your frustration with me. I am sorry

I want us to be stronger than ever, and I know if I can work past my faults that we can move past this. You mean the world to me.”

Part B – Acknowledge that the relationship is over

The hard truth of the matter is that the relationship you had with your girlfriend is over…

If you get your ex-girlfriend back, you will be starting a new relationship with her

The old one faded because there was something about it or you that wasn’t right…

You weren’t mature enough, you lost interest, you lost respect for each other, you weren’t ready, etc.

Now is the time to tell her, that you accept that it’s over

This step is crucial. If you don’t do this, then she will think that she has broken it off with you and that’s final

You don’t want this. Time to suck it up and let her know that now, it’s ‘mutual’

You can also do it in a letter, face-to-face or SMS. Either way, you want to say something along the lines of…

“I want you to know that I have cherished the time being with you and I wouldn’t take it back or change it for anything

But I agree with you that our relationship is over and this chapter of our lives has come to an end”

You really want to let her know that its over…

It gets rid of the expectations, the labels and all the bad stuff that is actually weighing down your future together (although she may not know that last bit)

And it will help you to start building that future together, even though it sounds counter-intuitive

So how do you start rebuilding that shared future, where the two of you grow old and wrinkly together? Michael reveals his Get-Your-Ex-Back plan including messages you can copy and paste to re-spark the attraction again in his book  ‘Text Your Ex Back’ available here

Step 5 – The No Contact Plan

In this step, Brad Browning gives us his best tip for getting your ex back

“The no contact strategy”

This basically means from the date that you told your Ex that you accept the relationship is over, for the next 4 weeks do not contact her

He says this works for 3 main reasons…

Absence

Using absence in your favor is an extremely powerful force that can draw your Ex back to you, all by itself

Time will settle any negative emotions she has so the more positive ones can come back

Ever noticed how your memory you typically only remember the fun stuff. Primary school is a good example. While you were there you were probably bored most of the time, but no when you look back it was the best time of your life…

We aren’t going to leave it that long, but some time can help heal and reveal what’s really important in someone’s life. And this is to your advantage

Confidence

Your confidence levels will rise because you are starting to take charge.

When you’re going through a break-up, no contact is really the only strategy you can control.

You can’t pick up the phone, because she may not answer so by taking charge, you are starting to get confident again

And you need your confidence to be the ‘you’ that she fell for in the first place

Time to Plan

No contact will also level out your emotions and let you put together some kind of plan. It will help you and give you time to do some self-development and learning so you can become a better man.

This is vital to your pursuit

Your previous relationship proved that the person who you were wasn’t ready. Now it’s time to improve.

  • Learn how to communicate better
  • Dress better
  • etc.

So what type of plan should you put together when you want to reunite with your Ex-Girlfriend?

Brad reveals his three-step plan in his highly recommended book called ‘The Ex Factor.’ You can get your copy here

There is also a chapter in there on how to become a better man so your ex-girlfriend won’t be able to resist you…

The next steps…

These 5 steps may feel like they are taking you away from your Ex. But think of them as demolishing the old stuff that didn’t work and putting down the foundation down for a new relationship.

At the end of the day, the foundation doesn’t look like much but it’s the most important part of the house

It keeps everything else standing…

And in this case, it puts you in a place where you can go forward knowing that you’ve got the rest of you covered and you have the best chance of getting your Ex-Girlfriend Back

Again i’d like to say thanks to the experts who helped put this article together. If you’d like to see any more of their advice then here it is:

  1. Clay Andrews: Relationship Inner Game
  2. Christopher Canwell: Girlfriend Recovery System
  3. Michael Sweeney: Get Her Back
  4. Michael Fiore: Text the Ex Back
  5. Brad Browning: The Ex Factor

If you have any questions or queries then contact me here.

 

Other Resources

  • https://modernlove.life/how-to-make-your-ex-miss-you/
  • http://www.romancetriggers.com/
  • https://www.meetyoursweet.com/men/blog/ive-changed-but-she-wont-forgive-me/
  • https://www.meetyoursweet.com/men/blog/why-experts-say-no-contact-is-bad-theyre-lying-to-you/

How To Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend – 8 Tips to Help You Move On

How to get over your ex girlfriend - man feeling good about life in outdoor setting

YOU HAD AMAZING unforgettable experiences together and you love everything about her….

There’s just one problem; she has told you that it’s over. You start wondering how things got this far.

If it is of any consolation, even the best guys will sometimes mess up with a girl they love and make her run. The good news is that she does not equal happiness. And one day, you will be glad that you went through this, because it made you a better man.

The probable causes for losing your woman

If you can’t get over a girl, this is the clearest indication that you dropped the ball in a big way.

However, are you aware of precisely what it is you did that messed up your relationship?

Experts in relationship repair say that many guys always think that one blow up conversation ended things. There was a big fight, you said some stupid things, and she left.

You could not be further from the truth; if you think that a single conversation drove your girlfriend out, you are deluded. It was not the one text: the one argument; the mischosen words. It was a culmination of how you have been treating her.

  • She started feeling like you did not want her. This one happens a lot. If at some point you stopped putting in as much effort and probably started ignoring, her that is where you lost her.
  • She started feeling hurt, disrespected and insulted. This is one is common with guys who are insensitive and trying to manifest their ‘bad boy’ qualities. If you keep making a girl feel ugly and inadequate around you, you will lose her faster than you can imagine.

Whichever it was, the damage is done, it’s time to learn and move on…

1. Get yourself together

The end of your relationship can make you feel worse than just about anything else. You must realize that you will go through periods of grief namely:

  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Negotiation
  • Depression         
  • Acceptance    

If you want to succeed, do not panic. Get yourself together and do not do anything stupid. Remember, any girl would never want to be with you when you are in a state of anger, rage, self-pity or despair.

It is during the first three stages that you are likely to lose control of your will power by:

  • Begging and asking for pit
  • Feeling lonely although you have friends
  • Thinking your ex is going to solve all your problems if she decides to get back with you
  • Disrespecting your ex and calling her names

how to get over your ex girlfriend - man going out alone
Doing things by yourself is a good way to create some distance from your ex girlfriend and give yourself some perspective on your life

2. Create distance

You may think that you can be friends with your ex. If you think this, then here is a small section just for you.

Give your girlfriend some space and time. Experts talk about a ’no contact’ rule during which you do not speak to your girlfriend for a period of time.

Not being in contact with her for that long will be tough and it will hurt, but it will certainly give you room for reflection and help you to cool down your temper. Staying away from your girlfriend will:

  • Help you avoid looking needy and insecure. Bear in mind that neediness and insecurity are the biggest attraction killers.
  • Give you time to learn more about how to get your ex-friend back.
  • Give her the time and opportunity to realize how amazing you actually are, to miss you, and realize that she really lost a friend.
  • Create ‘fear of loss’ in your ex-girlfriend, and she might start second-guessing her decision.

Staying away from her increases your chances of getting her back.

3. What should you do if she contacts you

The ‘No contact’ rule does not mean that your girlfriend cannot reach out to you. Indeed, if she calls, this is excellent for this situation.

If you follow the plan and stay away from your ex-girlfriend, it is likely that the fear of losing you will make her contact you. However, when you pick her calls, or she visits you:

  • Let her lead the conversation
  • Make sure to act happy and cheerful
  • Make sure you keep the conversation short
  • End the conversation first. Say something like:
      • I am going out with a friend, I will call you later
      • It was nice talking to you, but I have to…………..
  • Take time to call her back. Do not be eager to call her; wait at least a day.

The dont’s when your girlfriend contacts you.

Do not:

  • Act angry and depressed
  • Be immature, telling her how many women you are sleeping with
  • Talk about the relationship at all
  • Ask her whether she is dating or sleeping with someone else
  • Beg her to give you another chance

If she does not contact you, you will contact her at the end of the ‘no contact’ four week’s period

4. Be honest about why the relationship broke up

If you hope to build a healthy relationship with your ex-girlfriend ever again, you must admit that you messed up. Have you been treating her right, or have you:

  • Been neglecting her, either subtly by not listening to her, or by disrespecting her?
  • Were you perhaps insecure and jealous?
  • Might you have been manipulative and controlling?
  • Did you cheat on her?

Whatever it is you were doing, you might have thought that you were getting away with it but were not. The things she shrugged off from day to day built to a crescendo and she decided that she deserved to be treated better.

5. Take time to build yourself up

Working on your inner demons. So, hit the gym, take some classes, and revive your passions and hobbies.

Take time and learn the tools and skills of keeping a healthy relationship and increase your level of awareness. This should not be a wasted opportunity; ensure you work on making yourself better.

The misconception

One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is thinking that they have nothing to change about themselves. This is a huge lie. No matter how many girls are drooling over you, you must continually strive towards becoming a better version of yourself.

6. Do not dwell on the breakup

Talk about the good times and great memories and what changed in your lives after the breakup.

7. Discuss everything: even the difficult subject

Do not avoid the difficult topics. Anything that you do not deal with conclusively will remain the elephant in the room. This is an opportunity to deal with all those things that you previously buried under the rag.

8. Move forward

A real gentleman learns from his mistakes, accepts his past, and moves on. Do not dwell on the mistakes you made in your earlier relationship with your ex-girlfriend. You cannot change the past.

And the truth is sometimes you have to make mistakes in a relationship to learn. It’s simply learning ‘the hard way.’

Not the final goodbye

Thanks for reading this guide on how to get over your ex girlfriend. If you have any questions you can contact me here.