My Language of Attraction Review – Why You Should & Shouldn’t Get It

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NOTICE: This review is my own opinion of the Language of Attraction program after purchasing and going through it myself. It contains affiliate links.

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HAVE YOU EVER run out of things to say?

And then things get awkward and you decide to check out of the conversation your in

Afterwards you scratch your head and ask yourself why?

It’s one of a mans greatest concerns… to run out of things to say. Then we eject ourselves because we feel like were not good enough, or we feel shame at some point.

But guys that are good with women don’t feel this. And they don’t fall into this trap

The truth is that not knowing what to say, not just not having anything to say, will kill your chances with women. Because she will run the conversation if you don’t and she wont talk herself into being attracted to you.

So how do you solve the problem?

Matt Artisan has a lot of ideas on not only what to say, but how to make what you do say, the best so she will be attracted to you and want to see more of you in his Language of Attraction program.

Language of ATtraction Review - The program

What is the Language of Attraction Program (LOA) in one sentence

LOA is a program that is aimed at increasing your conversation skills, that teaches how to use conversation to build a connection and attraction with a woman as well as generally being more of a likable person.

LOA in more detail

This training isn’t about being a player, or notching your belt, it’s about meeting great women and having a great time with them. Making them feel great and giving them what they want.

I think that this suits guys who are looking to meet miss right because you do need to meet women to meet miss right. And this program shows you how to do that (and gives you the confidence to do it)

As far as how is the program delivered goes, LOA is pretty much Matt talking over a PowerPoint. The audios are the audio recording of the video. The cheat sheets are the main points or examples in a PDF form.

The sections are long and are about an hour each (sometimes more) so there is plenty of content.

And the content is quite good. The examples and conversations starters are good. So are the games he gives you to play.

During the program, Matt does talk a lot about you going out and practicing. So you probably should have some experience beforehand. Or be able to go out and do it. Which can be a bit of a big deal for some guys.

There isn’t much in the program about where to practice or how to practice. So if you are at the stage that you cannot meet women yet then this program might be one to visit in future.

What you get…

  • The Language of Attraction Program (Video and Audio, with presentation PDF’s)
  • Cheat sheets
  • Bonuses
    1. Jared Lawrence On Talking To Girls At Bars & Clubs
    2. Josiah Prise On Relating & Never Running Out Of Things To Say
    3. Sexualizing The Conversation

Who is Matt Artisan?

Matt Artisan is a dating coach. He has a plethora of experience and has taught many guys techniques on how to meet and talk to women.

In this program is relatable and his experience really shines through in the way he talks.

In the Language of Attraction, he comes across as a guy who likes to talk and is happy to share.

If your wondering what Matt’s ‘style’ is, he is a ‘meet girls during the day, direct approaching and even hopeless romantic’ type of guy.

Some guys might be put off by this, but you are better knowing now than later. This ‘style’ works for some guys, but not all.

PROS

The cheat sheets

They are a quick way to remind yourself what you should be doing. With examples

They are great before you walk out the door, or print them and take them with  you when you have a minute to brush up. Or just hold them out in front of a girl if you have the balls for it.

Plenty of examples and stories

I like the fact that Matt introduces concepts as stories, typically things that have happened to him.

Really Good insights

Matt has a real passion for trying to help men gain confidence and help them with women and you can tell the way that he talks.

He does talk with stories and examples, he also does give plenty of his stuff away in this.

Some of the things in the program are kind of common sense. But i guess it depends on your experience.

CONS

Advice can be a little confusing for beginners

Sometimes it can be a little confusing. Especially where advice is given that isn’t concrete. I.e. it isn’t the same all the time. There are exceptions which may confuse.

I also felt like at stages, there hasn’t been as much preparation as their could have been. Ideas and concepts aren’t fully conceptualized in the program. That they could have been made simpler or easier to follow. When things aren’t concrete i think that it does make it more confusing, especially for beginners without much previous knowledge.

A little spiritual / self-helpy at times

At times in the program, Matt talks about self help concepts (affirmations, morning routines, etc.). This isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. It’s not a huge part of the program, but it is there.

Some things are a little tough to ‘take action’ on

Like being ‘in the moment’ it’s hard to ‘use’ that. It’s also hard to know if you are doing it. And it’s hard to follow if you are new to going out and meeting women. Because you do need to think about what your going to say etc.

So it can be a little confusing if your thinking ‘what should i focus on’

Some of the exercises you need more than one person, which might be hard for some. They aren’t the kind of thing that you’d do with a girl that you met either.

Extras

Jared Lawrence on talking to girls at bars & clubs

Jared reveals the real difference between day and night game and the biggest impacts that the two have on meeting and talking to women.

You will learn:

  • The 5 states that she needs to feel to be attracted to you
  • An easy way to start flirting (that might even get you a free drink)
  • What flirting is and what it is not
  • The vibe that you need to avoid giving off to girls at night
  • What to do when you try to advance too quickly to save your interaction

Josiah Prise on relating & never running out of things to say

Josiah talks about how to keep the conversation going through dissecting the different parts and elements of communication.

You will learn:

  • The 3 pronged system to use to always have something to say
  • The types of questions to use to get her to start being emotional
  • The easiest way to make the standard ‘job interview type’ questions, fun
  • The question you can ask a girl in basically any situation to get her to think about times she felt great
  • What you have to do (that most guys don’t) to raise your success rate when meeting girls during the day

Sexualizing the conversation

Matt Artisan talks about how to move things forward quickly in a conversation, and get her to think about you more as a love interest than a friend

You will learn:

  • What not to do when you are talking about sexual things
  • How to get her permission to ask any sexual question you want
  • What NOT to do when she starts getting sexual in the conversation
  • What you can say at any time to bring up sexual topics
  • How to demonstrate your sexual expertise right in front of her (in a way that’s safe to do around others)

My opinion on LOA:

Overall I like this program. I think that it is an honest, and straightforward way for guys to get some cannon fodder for meeting women and talking.

The Techniques are relatively simple to follow, and won’t take long to get right when your mid conversation with that beautiful brunette.

Matt is a guy who meets women during the day, so if your looking for fun party stuff then this may not be the program for you, however, if you are trying to dodge the party scene and you want to have something to say to the woman waiting at the lights, or walking by the shops, at the library, supermarket etc. then this program contains great information. And i would recommend it for you.

You can get the program here, and if you have any questions about it, then please contact me here.

How to be Confident with Women & 2 Tips to Hack Your Self-Esteem

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How to be confident with women - Guy talking to a group of girls doing cheers motion

IF YOU ARE LIKE many guys trying to get better with women, you may think that all you need to appear more confident is do more:

  • Say more stuff to her
  • Have more techniques to approach her
  • Have more pickup lines

Unfortunately, talking too much is the perfect way to turn her off. A woman can always sense when you are over talking because you are nervous.

Why are guys nervous in the presence of women?

It is amazing how relaxed you are around your colleagues and friends, but the moment a pretty girl shows up, you are completely intimidated. Some of the reasons why guys clam up when they are in the presence of girls include:

Putting her on a pedestal

If many guys were to be honest, beautiful girls intimidate them because they (guys) put the girl on a pedestal before they even know her.

They feel as if the girl is a goddess and that they have to prove themselves and impress. Thinking like this will put a lot of pressure on a guy who thinks he always has to impress her and get her to like him.

The cure

Some will say that simply thinking this way ridiculous and you should try to talk yourself out of it. But from my experience this doesn’t work. The cure here is to meet (and date) more beautiful women. So that one exposure to a pretty woman isn’t as much of a big deal.

Being too hard on yourself

Many guys’ worst enemy is their own opinions about themselves.

You have a constant stream of thoughts that point out how less than perfect you are. You dwell on how you aren’t good looking; how you have physical flaws that need to be fixed; how you are a loner; that you have never kissed a girl; and that you are a loser…..

If you are too hard on yourself, you become insecure and eventually sabotage any chance you may have to be confident with girls.

The cure

While confidence and personality are more attractive to a girl than the things you are dwelling on. And you should consider for a minute that your looks and accomplishments probably don’t matter to a girl nearly as much as you think they do.

It’s hard to actually put in place. But I do have one way to fix this which is a bit of a weird one but it worked for me. Ready…

Create a different personality.

Yep. Instead of simply having you. Have different “you’s”. For instance if your name is John, you now have everyday “John”. And also “Good Time John”.

Everyday you is kinda shy around new people. He does his work and takes care of business at home, at work etc.

Good Time John goes out at night and has fun. He foremost interest is in having a good time and people who want to have a good time.

This is an overly simple explanation, but the theory behind it has helped me personally in many ways.

How to be confident with women - Guy singing karaoke with women
Singing can be seen as a sign you are confident… even if you are not a great singer

How to be confident around women

Everyone has their insecurities.

Being confident around beautiful women is not about never feeling insecure. It is about being comfortable in your own skin, and not allowing your insecurities get in the way of your pursuing girls that you are attracted to.

All confidence is acquired and developed. No man is born with confidence.

One big misconception by men that sabotages their efforts is that men have to do something to get the girl. Whether that is impress or talk or demonstrate something, etc.

Truly confident guys know that they DO NOT have to do anything. That it will happen naturally.

Analyze and destroy your self-sabotaging beliefs

Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. If you have been struggling with feeling confident around girls, it only makes sense to see what scares you and where it comes from.

For instance, let’s say you have approach anxiety. Have you ever stopped to contemplate why you have it? Why should it be so hard to walk up and say ‘hi?’

Maybe in the back of your mind you think that people are out to get you because you were abused or bullied in your past. Or perhaps you are scared by women because your mother smothered you as a child and you always feel inferior around girls.

If you taketime to conduct a thorough analysis, you would possibly realize that most of your anxiety has nothing to do with the girl standing in front of you.

Instead it comes from experiences at various stages of your youth and adolescence. If you objectively examined what went wrong and sought for ways to deal with your past situations, you would move forward in your dating life.

Manage your expectations

Many guys fear to go to women out of fear of rejection. They are insecure, and they take rejection too seriously. Expecting to always score a date or a relationship after approaching a girl is putting way too much pressure on yourself.

Change your mindset. The worst thing that a girl can do is to say no.

The first thing you need to realize is that rejection is not personal and it may be as a result of things you have absolutely no control over.

Regardless of your game or lack thereof, many times you will be rejected. Rejection is not meaningful until you empower it.

Also, do not put too much meaning into your interaction with her. Would you care if a random guy you did not know decided that he did not particularly like you? Then, why do you allow the opinion of a girl you have only briefly interacted with matter so much to you?

Treat an attractive girl the same casual way you would treat a friend or an unattractive girl.

Do not pedestalize the girl

The ability to take a girl off the pedestal is the difference between being successful with girls and being unsuccessful.

Treating the girl you are attracted to like a regular person and not like an idol is critical to your success. Treat her with dignity and respect her, but do not let her hold power over you while you grovel at her feet.

As stated above the best way to cure this is to meet more women. The more interactions you have, the less important each one becomes.

Take it one step at a time

The idea of approaching a woman and carrying out a conversation beyond the initial ‘hi’ can be daunting for many guys. However, you can gain confidence in your conversation skills through practice.

Start by saying hi’ to women as you walk down the street. You don’t even have to start a conversation; just smile, say ‘hi’ and don’t break your stride.

This may sound all too simple but make a habit of it. Get friendly with the girls you regularly see; at the coffee shop, the fast food place, the library. Make a few remarks as you order: get them to make a suggestion and engage them in a brief chat. With time, you will get comfortable talking to women, and you will build some confidence.

Gradually start to throw out some banter and then seek to further the interaction by making the conversation personal. Within no time, you will find that you can build sexual tension.

The point is always seeking to build your skills by taking your next interaction a step further than the previous one. Keep at this, and you will be confidently talking to women in no time.

Just go for it

When you want to approach a woman, you probably find yourself hesitating.

Unfortunately, when you hesitate, your mental barrier kicks into place. It becomes even harder to approach the girl. The longer you think about whether you should approach a girl or not, the more anxious you will feel. As such, you need to act more upon that first impulse.

Your first impulse is your best shot at actually approaching and talking to a girl. All the thinking that you do after the initial intention to approach only serves to scare you.

If you don’t move fast, you will either talk yourself out of approaching the girl or do it awkwardly. If you wait to feel utterly confident to approach a girl, the chances are that it will never happen. Give yourself a few seconds and get your feet moving towards the girl.

Momentum is an incredible thing. It is hard to get moving, but once you start moving, it is hard to stop.

One last tip

Do you still need some extra push to gain confidence? You can use affirmations before approaching the girl. Tell yourself something positive:

The outcome doesn’t matter; I am sexy; women enjoy talking to me.

Have a few affirmations that resonate with you to get motivated to get out there and do it.

The final approach

The beauty with approaching women is that there is so much you are in control of:

  • You decide whom to approach
  • Your attitude towards the girl
  • Where you are comfortable approaching
  • How long you want the interaction to last
  • How you treat the outcome of the interaction

When you realize how much power you have over the situation, you will feel empowered and much more confident to approach girls.

Do not give your power away by pedestalizing the girl, looking down upon yourself and assigning too much meaning to rejection.