The Single Man’s Guide to Erogenous Zones in a Woman

Erogenous Zones in a woman

THE SUREST WAY to take your girl to heaven and back is through her erogenous zones.

Erogenous zones are areas of the body that have heightened sensitivity. When you stimulate these areas, you create all the incredible feelings: relaxation, thoughts of sexual fantasies, sexual arousal and orgasm.

A good mastery of your girl’s erogenous zones will help you take her from zero to gotta-have-it- right now every single time. Unfortunately, even your girl herself may not know the location of all her erogenous zones.

Her Body

The female body is a huge source of immense pleasure; it is a massive bundle of nerves that you can use to send your girl over the edge of deep electrifying desire. The chances are that she has never even thought to explore some of the hot spots in her body.

A good understanding of the female erogenous zones will help you not only discover her amazing hot spots, but also introduce her to hotter ones she didn’t know she had. Here are the top erogenous zones to turn her on and get you a standing ovation.

The neck

The neck is the most sensitive area to light sensations, and one of the sexiest areas to touch, kiss and lick. This is because the skin on the neck is extremely thin, and it, therefore, does not take much to make a woman feel good. Even breathing gently on the nape of her neck will send incredible sensations down her spine. Every feeling on your girl’s neck is greatly magnified. Run the tip of your fingers lightly up and down her neck and watch her squirm.

The beauty of this erogenous zone is that she doesn’t even have to be undressed for you to access it. It is, therefore, a great erogenous zone to start stimulating even before your girl is aroused.

At the nape of the neck, there is a whole boatload of nerves that long to be touched. Remember the nape is the base of the brain where a lot of nerves come together: a sure ticket to arousal.

The inner thighs

The skin on your girl’s inner thighs is super sensitive and packed with nerve endings. This area is therefore extra sensitive to your nips, licks, kisses, and nibbles. If you want to kick it up a notch, trace an ice cube up and down her inner thighs, and she will have an indescribable sensation. The inner thigh makes an excellent field for foreplay.

The feet

Not only are the feet packed with nerve endings, but they contain pleasure points that trigger arousal. No wonder the feet have been used for centuries to stimulate organs through reflexology.

According to sex therapists, the inside and outside of the ankles are especially sensitive spots with numerous nerve endings that correspond directly to the most sensitive erogenous zones of the female body: the uterus and the vagina.

Also, the area below the ankle bones directly corresponds to the ovaries, which are responsible for increasing libido and improving sexual satisfaction. The upper part of the soles of the feet corresponds to the chest, and when you stimulate them, they send waves of sexual arousal to your girl’s nipples and breasts.

Since some women are ticklish on their feet, focus on firm and steady strokes as opposed to light, tickly motions; more like a massage. Place her feet on your lap and start massaging the pads of her feet. Then, use your thumbs to rub upward in a circular motion. Repeat these kneading motions slowly down the length of her foot, then move up again all the way to her toes.

The Ears

According to Emily Morse, a sexologist, ears are highly erotic. Ears are especially sensitive to touch because they contain a massive number of sensory receptors. Start by lightly tracing a C shaped outline of her ear with your fingertips while you are all kissing or gazing into her eyes.

Sex therapists indicate that the earlobe is especially where the magic is: kissing, biting, nibbling, grazing and sucking her earlobe will set off fireworks. Combining these with some other action like clitoral stimulation will intensify her orgasm.

Another way to stimulate the ear is through sound. Do not underestimate the power of a low moan delivered directly into her ear. Why do you think whispering is so sexy?

Her stomach

Sex therapists say that the abdomen is an incredibly erotic area. Firstly, the woman’s abdominal muscles are connected to her vagina. This is the reason why some women have had an orgasm simply from doing core exercises. When you stimulate her abdominal muscles during foreplay, they contract in anticipation of vaginal stimulation, which boosts her arousal.

Again, the stretch of skin between her breasts and the pubic mound is full of nerve endings, and their proximity to her genitals makes the area very sensitive to touch. Light stimulation of the lower abdomen facilitates blood flow to her genitals.

The proximity of the lower abdomen to the vagina and the clitoris makes the thought of moving further south particularly exciting for your woman. Start stroking your fingers slowly up and down her stomach or across her lower abdomen. This will stimulate blood flow to her genitals. Let your strokes get progressively lower and lower closer to her sexual organs and then come back up. This anticipation will build her arousal until she is begging you for more direct stimulation.

Her scalp

The skin on top of the head is loaded with nerves, which sex experts indicate are extremely sensitive to touch. Giving your woman a scalp massage is not only soothing but also sensual. Stimulating your girl’s scalp releases a load of feel-good hormones like oxytocin and serotonin. It also helps to release tension and get her in the mood for sex.

The next time you are having a foreplay session, open your fingers wide and slowly drag them through her hair. Stroke her scalp with your figures as you move along. Start at the base of her head, and then go behind her ears, moving on to the front of her scalp.

The Mons

According to Michael Krychman, a sex therapist, the Mons (the area above the genitals) is a richly erotic area. Caressing the hair on the pubic mound or a gentle touch to this area is exciting and pleasurable to your girl.

Remember, your woman’s pubic mound is closely connected to her sexual organs and, therefore, stimulating it triggers a strong sexual response. Shannon Chavez, a sex therapist, asserts that stimulating the pubic mound leads to the production of pheromones that triggers an incredible sexual response in your woman.

Over To You

Sex can be monotonous, especially if you do not take time to know your woman’s body. Learning the location of the various erogenous zones is a significant step towards spicing up your love life.

Unfortunately, even your woman may not be a good student of her body, and she, therefore, may not of much help with this one. There is every possibility that she is not aware of most of her erogenous zones.

The key is communicating with your woman as you explore her body. This way, you will transform your sex life into a spicy, steamy affair.

There is nothing more rewarding than knowing how to pleasure your woman thoroughly.

How to Get a Woman to Like You When You’re Nervous

How to get a girl to like you - couple on date

How to get a girl to like you - couple on date

YOU HAVE JUST MET a woman that you think is gorgeous and funny and absolutely intelligent.

You are really attracted to her, and you can totally see yourself in a fantastic relationship with her… And you want her to be into you as well.

But do you know what to do?

One wrong move and you will be annoying and push her away, or you will find yourself in the darkest pit of the friend zone.

How can you create a positive impression and eventually make her attracted to you?

How to get a woman to like you

Be well groomed

Women are not hung up on physical features, but your appearance is the first thing they will notice.

Physical attraction is the initial attraction. If you are dirty, smelly and wearing clothes that look like they have just been thrown together, you may put her off and deny her chance to discover just how amazing you are.

How you dress is quite important

Research shows that females instinctively look at how a guy is dressed to determine if he will be a good provider for their family in the future.

A well-dressed guy sends the message that he is stable, goal oriented, and driven. When you want to impress women, wear clean clothes, trim your nails, comb your hair, and be presentable.

When seeking to attract a woman, your smell is of utmost importance

Your fragrance can intrigue a woman, sexually attract her, or even repulse her.

It doesn’t matter how good looking you are if you have a scent that turns off other people you have no chance of attracting her. Having a nice aftershave or scent of cologne will help.

Your scent should not be too overpowering. It should not overwhelm, but it should definitely be noticeable. She should only detect it when you walk by or stand next to her.

Be confident

Research shows that women cannot resist a confident attitude.

A guy who is comfortable in his own skin holds his head up high, is true to himself, and does not worry about what other people think is very attractive. A woman will be drawn to a man who believes in himself and is not afraid to be the man he wants to be.

A guy who is confident inside and out sends a strong message that he can protect his girl and his family.

A guy who lacks confidence communicates timidity and disinterest. This will cause her to keep her distance because she cannot trust him to be there when she needs him.

Be yourself

When many guys meet women, they do not present their ‘true selves’.

This is because they fear rejection. They feel like they do not look good enough or they are not charming enough. So instead of being themselves, they try to project an image that you think she will like.

Other guys are too worried about what to say to women: always weighing their words and jumping on every opportunity to agree.

Unfortunately, she will see right through you. Women can tell that you are not your authentic self and that you crave her approval. When she senses this, she will run for the hills. A woman respects a man who believes in himself enough to risk not be liked and approved of.

Remember, different women have different preferences when it comes to men. Therefore, not every woman will be attracted to you; and it has nothing to do with you. Be yourself and allow her to like you for you.

How to get a woman to like you - he is paying attention to her

Pay attention to her

When you are with a woman, make her feel as if she is only other person in the room. Even when people walk by, the music is loud, and the dishes are breaking, keep your whole attention focused on her.

Women love this… And they test for it.

Women who are interested in you will get their friends to sit next to you instead of them. They do this to test whether you really have an interest in them or if you’re just after ‘any girl’.

You can pass the test by keeping your attention on her. This is definitely a way to get into her good books in the right way.

Let her talk about herself

Often, guys struggle on dates because they try to keep the conversation going at all times. They forget that the one topic of ultimate interest for women is themselves.

And make no mistake, girls love to talk about themselves. If you master the art of listening to her, you will have the most fantastic conversation.

Simply listen, pick on the things that she tells you and talk to her about them.

She will appreciate that you show an interest in her and she will feel good emotions talking about things that matter to her. Consequently, she will associate those emotions with you. Within no time, she will feel a connection with you.

Next time you are talking to a girl, zero in on what matters to her and let her elaborate on it.

Mirroring

Girls want guys with whom they share some similarities.

Mirroring is a good way to show her that you are more alike than different. This is an incredible tactic because you do not even have to talk to her.

Mirroring catches the attention of the woman and communicates to her that you are a guy that she would find interesting. It is also a way of getting her to develop a true sense of trust because people generally trust people who are similar to them.

Research shows that when you mirror a woman’s facial expressions, it makes her feel attracted to you and she also finds you interesting, caring and intelligent. Some of the ways you can mirror include:

  • Smiling when she smiles
  • Turning your body in the same direction as hers
  • Nodding your head when she nods hers
  • Raising your eyebrows when she raises hers
  • Showing disgusting when she shows disgust towards something else

Although don’t impersonate

This doesn’t mean copying or impersonating her. It’s simply about showing her that you are in the same frame of mind at the same time.

Similarity attraction effect

We have already established that we are attracted to people who are similar to us.

You can use this to your benefit when listening to the woman that you like. Simply highlight the things that you have in common.

She says she loves country music? Let her know your favorite band if you also like country music.

Studies show that the more similar to a girl a guy is, the more she feels he is predictable, and her brain, therefore, thinks he is safe to be with.

Be spontaneous

You don’t have to do what every other guy out there is doing to impress her.

For instance, why don’t you use your talents to impress her? On a date take her to something that you are good at. Even if it is hitting range balls, she will see you at something you are good at.

This will earn you extra points because you are genuine and that takes extra time and effort.

The novel effect

Research shows things that are new or unusual activate the parts of the brain that invokes curiosity and consequently, attractiveness.

Separate yourself from the herd and do things differently and you will surely get her to like you.

Final thoughts…

Many guys allow their shortcomings to stand in the way of their love life.

There are many things you may not like about yourself…… and if you are not careful, you may allow them to erode your self-esteem

These are factors that you cannot control, and you should not allow them to stand in the way of your love. A great personality and attitude can help you to overcome all your insecurities.

Therefore, embrace who you are, turn them into your strengths and build your self-esteem. And remember, even the girl you are eyeing is not perfect. She probably has her own insecurities.

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5 Experts Reveal The First 5 Steps In Order To Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

How To Make Your Ex Want You Back - Woman walking away on the beach

How To Make Your Ex Want You Back - Woman walking away on the beach

EVERY SINGLE HUMAN-BEING FOLLOWS PROCESSES… 

It’s how we live our lives whether we know it or not

We don’t simply get a loaf of bread. We need to prepare the ingredients and put it in the oven first

It’s the same for relationships

How we get out of them, and how we get into them

Getting into a relationship has a process. Even with your Ex-Girlfriend. It’s simply a matter of following the right steps in the right order

She needs to feel a certain way first before she can feel anything else…

Recently I harassed some fellow relationship experts and asked them to give up their first 5 steps to getting an Ex-Girlfriend back

How they go about priming a woman’s mind to get her ready to give him another chance…

And with some arm twisting, they did.

The First  5 Steps to Successfully Getting Your Ex Back

STEP #1 – Noticing The Wall Your Ex Has Put Between the Two of You

I remember my first ever relationship, a couple of weeks before she broke up with me that there was something different…

She wasn’t as spontaneous, and looking back I think she had something on her mind

Dating expert Clay Andrews says that this is the first step in turning things around

You may be further down the line than this but it’s important to think back to when you noticed a shift in her

You’ll know because:

  • She stopped sharing things with you
  • She didn’t look at you the same way
  • She started cancelling plans all of a sudden

And although you may think the break-up came out of the blue, if you give it some thought it could help you reconsider…

Was there a day where things were different (like I noticed) or maybe it happened slowly over time?

Either way, the first step to getting your ex-girlfriend back is to notice when things tapered off…

If you’re having trouble pinpointing the situation, Clay has kindly put this video together to help…

And you can find out more about Clay’s teaching and program by taking this quiz here or find his eBook that’s titled ‘The 5 Phases to Get Your Ex Back’ here.

Step #2: Understand What Is Pushing Her Away

“There’s a huge misconception among men that if they upset their girlfriend then they’re going to lose her.” – Psychologist Christopher Canwell

Although it sounds like the opposite of what you should do, upsetting your girlfriend is NOT necessarily what is pushing her away (99% of the time at least)

Instead, it’s boring, being predictable and generally ‘playing it safe’. Your girlfriend wants to feel what it’s like to be a player in the game, ride the bumps, get knocked down occasionally, and score the winning goal…

Not watch from the sidelines

She wants to feel the range of emotion that comes from being with a man. It keeps her guessing, she loves the drama and uncertainty of it

Believe it or not, keeping her in this state has been scientifically researched and thought to increase attraction.

If you play it too nice and are too safe then she won’t feel these emotions, and she will start looking for someone who can give them to her…

The big take away here is not to overcompensate. It’s a trap that many guys fall into. A lot of guys think their girlfriend is going to leave them and they overcompensate by buying flowers, crying and saying ‘I can change for you’

She DOES NOT WANT YOU TO CHANGE. If anything she wants you to go back to the guy you were, the man that she once was attracted to and that she desired.

What type of guy were you when she desired you more than anyone? You can see more of Christopher’s advice about how to be that guy again here.

Step #3: Back off

This step follows right on from the previous step, and like most of Michael Sweeney’s advice it doesn’t mess around

‘Back off’ with your attention and affection

Here’s a question for you…

Has any of the following crossed your mind?

  • Calling her because you just need to tell her something that will make it all OK
  • Talking to her friends about convincing her to get back with you
  • Sending her messages on social media about how you want to commit to her

If they have then get them out of your mind. These ideas are coming out of neediness and aren’t attractive at all. They are not going to help you get her back

And if you have done any of these, then let’s agree right now that it needs to stop

Michael Sweeney says that these behaviors are actually pushing her further away…

So the third step is really about stopping something if you are doing it, not so much about doing something different

Michael says that women make decisions based on how they feel about the relationship they have with someone at that very moment

And if she feels that you need her (which these three behaviors demonstrate) she won’t want all the pressure and will run the other way

The trick is don’t ask her to be back with you when she doesn’t feel good towards you. She won’t give you the answer you are looking for

But when she:

  • Feels better about you
  • Is once again excited to see you
  • Starts making plans to hang out again

She will reconsider..

So how do you give her that giddy feeling she craves when she’s in your presence again? Michael reveals all in his book ‘Get Her Back: FOR MEN ONLY’ available here

Step #4:

(Part A) – If You Did Something To Cause the Breakup (i.e. cheating) Then Apologize

Step four is broken up into two parts because they go together

Firstly in part A, if you did something that caused the breakup, like cheating or just being overly stupid for a lot of the time then apologise

She needs to know that you are serious about this. And that it meant something when you said sorry

It’s vitally important that you do this honestly and sincerely

You can do it face to face, with SMS, but a letter (handwritten) I think is the best way to get the message across…

Why a letter? A letter gives her the power. She can read it when she wants, and take the time to process it how she likes

It’s also something that you don’t typically do (im guessing), so the communication channel hasn’t been potentially corrupted by fights, or mundane messages like ‘can you get the bread tonight?’ etc.

There’s also just something about receiving a handwritten letter. You know that someone has put time and thought about it. and there’s feeling in it

Anyhow, you need to tell her something like…

“I love you, but we both know that I’ve made a huge mistake. It’s something that I think about every day

I’d like to say that I’m strong enough not to fall into temptation again, but the truth is I need to become a better man

I know that I have hurt you by the way that you have acted. I understand that when you act out towards other people you are really venting your frustration with me. I am sorry

I want us to be stronger than ever, and I know if I can work past my faults that we can move past this. You mean the world to me.”

Part B – Acknowledge that the relationship is over

The hard truth of the matter is that the relationship you had with your girlfriend is over…

If you get your ex-girlfriend back, you will be starting a new relationship with her

The old one faded because there was something about it or you that wasn’t right…

You weren’t mature enough, you lost interest, you lost respect for each other, you weren’t ready, etc.

Now is the time to tell her, that you accept that it’s over

This step is crucial. If you don’t do this, then she will think that she has broken it off with you and that’s final

You don’t want this. Time to suck it up and let her know that now, it’s ‘mutual’

You can also do it in a letter, face-to-face or SMS. Either way, you want to say something along the lines of…

“I want you to know that I have cherished the time being with you and I wouldn’t take it back or change it for anything

But I agree with you that our relationship is over and this chapter of our lives has come to an end”

You really want to let her know that its over…

It gets rid of the expectations, the labels and all the bad stuff that is actually weighing down your future together (although she may not know that last bit)

And it will help you to start building that future together, even though it sounds counter-intuitive

So how do you start rebuilding that shared future, where the two of you grow old and wrinkly together? Michael reveals his Get-Your-Ex-Back plan including messages you can copy and paste to re-spark the attraction again in his book  ‘Text Your Ex Back’ available here

Step 5 – The No Contact Plan

In this step, Brad Browning gives us his best tip for getting your ex back

“The no contact strategy”

This basically means from the date that you told your Ex that you accept the relationship is over, for the next 4 weeks do not contact her

He says this works for 3 main reasons…

Absence

Using absence in your favor is an extremely powerful force that can draw your Ex back to you, all by itself

Time will settle any negative emotions she has so the more positive ones can come back

Ever noticed how your memory you typically only remember the fun stuff. Primary school is a good example. While you were there you were probably bored most of the time, but no when you look back it was the best time of your life…

We aren’t going to leave it that long, but some time can help heal and reveal what’s really important in someone’s life. And this is to your advantage

Confidence

Your confidence levels will rise because you are starting to take charge.

When you’re going through a break-up, no contact is really the only strategy you can control.

You can’t pick up the phone, because she may not answer so by taking charge, you are starting to get confident again

And you need your confidence to be the ‘you’ that she fell for in the first place

Time to Plan

No contact will also level out your emotions and let you put together some kind of plan. It will help you and give you time to do some self-development and learning so you can become a better man.

This is vital to your pursuit

Your previous relationship proved that the person who you were wasn’t ready. Now it’s time to improve.

  • Learn how to communicate better
  • Dress better
  • etc.

So what type of plan should you put together when you want to reunite with your Ex-Girlfriend?

Brad reveals his three-step plan in his highly recommended book called ‘The Ex Factor.’ You can get your copy here

There is also a chapter in there on how to become a better man so your ex-girlfriend won’t be able to resist you…

The next steps…

These 5 steps may feel like they are taking you away from your Ex. But think of them as demolishing the old stuff that didn’t work and putting down the foundation down for a new relationship.

At the end of the day, the foundation doesn’t look like much but it’s the most important part of the house

It keeps everything else standing…

And in this case, it puts you in a place where you can go forward knowing that you’ve got the rest of you covered and you have the best chance of getting your Ex-Girlfriend Back

Again i’d like to say thanks to the experts who helped put this article together. If you’d like to see any more of their advice then here it is:

  1. Clay Andrews: Relationship Inner Game
  2. Christopher Canwell: Girlfriend Recovery System
  3. Michael Sweeney: Get Her Back
  4. Michael Fiore: Text the Ex Back
  5. Brad Browning: The Ex Factor

If you have any questions or queries then contact me here.

 

Other Resources

  • https://modernlove.life/how-to-make-your-ex-miss-you/
  • http://www.romancetriggers.com/
  • https://www.meetyoursweet.com/men/blog/ive-changed-but-she-wont-forgive-me/
  • https://www.meetyoursweet.com/men/blog/why-experts-say-no-contact-is-bad-theyre-lying-to-you/

The Top 10 Best Pick Up Artist Books

Best Pick Up Artist Books - Man chatting to woman in cafe

Best Pick Up Artist Books - Man chatting to woman in cafe

THE PICK UP ARTISTS IN these books have all turned their lives around

They all started off as nervous, timid and socially awkward guys who couldn’t even get a date…

Now they are dating superheroes

Many of them were spurred on, learning from guys who had come before them…

Now they are the ones giving advice. Helping guys like you by revealing what works for them, as well as stories from their experiences

Here are the top 10 pick up books I found and have read. They are in no particular order and offer something a little different…

 

tao of badass book and bonuses

Tao of Badass – Joshua Pellicer

This is more of an encyclopedia than a book. There is plenty of content to go through and the level of detail is very thorough.

Not only are there details on what to say/do etc, but also plenty of ‘inner game’ stuff, stories about what to do (and what not to do), unique concepts and the typical tips and techniques.

The Tao of Badass isn’t just a book. It includes videos, audio and plenty of bonuses which why it costs a little more than the other options on this list.

You can get your copy of TAO OF BADASS here as well as read a more DETAILED REVIEW here

 

The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed – Mystery (aka Eric Von Markovik)

Mystery is really a geek when it comes to meeting women…

The part of ‘getting laid’ that most guys think is by chance, he has been turned into a Science

In his book, he goes into minute detail and spells out the rules of how to meet women for you

Although this book isn’t going to solve all the challenges you face, after reading it you can expect that your odds will improve

The best thing about what Mystery has done is that he has done it a lot, and in this book, he gives away some of his ‘rules of thumb’. Including:

  • How long it takes to go from meeting to sleeping with a woman (on average)
  • How long you should wait before you make your approach
  • The best way to bypass her ‘buyers remorse’ trigger

Some of the books is a little outdated, but the ideas, message and Mystery’s rules of thumb are still relevant. And because of this, it’s worth a read, especially for those who haven’t read many (or any) pick up books before

The Mystery Method is very structured and the book will give readers a complete view (and timeline) of those important first few hours when meeting a woman

You can get your copy and read more reviews of The Mystery Method here

 

The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida

David Deida isn’t a pick up artist. But this book has been handed down by pick up artists for as long as I can remember

It’s all about dealing with the stresses and challenges that come from work, women and sexual desire

This isn’t simply woo-woo nonsense, although the reasons why may not be clear to readers

It’s centered around male spirituality, but there are also practical aspects that men can follow

However, the book is typically written in that meta kind of way that spiritual books are typically written in. Topics include*:

  • Live with an open heart even when it hurts
  • Don’t force the feminine to make decisions
  • Live as if your father were dead
  • What she wants is not what she says

If you need to focus on your ‘inner-game’ (the reasons why you act as you do) then this is the book for you.

Well worth the read, there is a lot of wisdom in this book

Get your copy of THE WAY OF THE SUPERIOR MAN here

*Topics I have taken are from my copy which is about 10 years old. The version available now may be updated

 

Unlock her legs book and bonuses

Unlock Her Legs – Bobby Rio (& Rob Judge)

Unlike the other books on this page, unlock her legs deals with the question…

‘There’s this one girl, how do I get her?’

Whether you have been relegated to the ‘friend zone’, your relationship went a little sour or she doesn’t even really know who you are (be honest here) then this book is for you

It covers how to change her perception of you, then how to turn her from just a friend into something more.

As far as how the book reads, Bobby talks like a typical New Yorker. Crude and straight to the point. There are stories to illustrate points but it’s mostly a ‘what to do and how to do it’ type book.

If you haven’t read any other pick up books, you will be surprised by the level of detail that Bobby Rio and Rob Judge (co-author) have in this area.

Unlock her legs comes with audiobook and plenty of bonuses reports. (see image)

Well worth a read. Find out more and get your copy of UNLOCK HER LEGS here

 

Magnetic Messaging

Magnetic Messaging – Bobby Rio (& Rob Judge)

Although some will promise it, there is no such thing as a magical set of words that will get her to fall in love with you…

But what there is, is a way of communicating with a woman that demonstrates to her that you are a confident, smart and attractive..

Which she won’t be able to resist

This book helps you by showing you what confident, smart and attractive guys are saying to girls.. that is working

It reveals many of the exact lines that Bobby and Rob use themselves to meet and escalate romance with women that they meet.

Although it is a little dated, the principles and texts still work just as well today

When I was new to meeting women, using text messages I ‘borrowed’ from other guys was one of the best learning experiences.

It gave me more motivation, which then only made it a matter of time before I could meet and attract women when I wanted.

You can get your copy of MAGNETIC MESSAGING here

 

Brent Smith - Attract Hotter Women

Attract Hotter Women – Brent Smith

Brent Smith is kind of the odd one out when it comes to this list.

He’s not your typical guy who learned a lot about meeting women. And he’s not going to teach you about meeting women in the street or at the local nightclub.

He’s a playboy.

The old-school type. World travelling, Tuxedo wearing, Celebrity mingling … and he only ever dates ’10s’.

As you can tell by the name of his book, he has refined taste when it comes to everything, including women

This book is another ‘what to do, how to do’ type book that covers the topic of meeting higher value women (which are also typically better looking)

It includes areas around increasing your social status and how to generate a vibe that will attract beautiful women to you

Get your copy of Brent Smith’s ATTRACT HOTTER WOMEN here

 

Complete Hooked System

Hooked! Proven secrets that make women addicted to being with you – Tripp Kramer

Tripp is a pretty regular guy. Originally from the Midwest, this book is the result of his journey to meeting women and socializing in his new city (Los Angeles).

The breakthrough in this book is that you don’t need to be an alpha male or someone you’re not to have the dating life you want.

In some ways the book has more regular, ‘what-you-would-expect’ advice. Tips on how you dress, what to say to keep the interaction moving along, body language stuff etc.

Tripp also harnesses the power of NLP to help build deeper connections with women. And covers more specific topics like how to arrange your living space to make women feel more comfortable there.

Good for guys who want to keep it simple, and use less of the ‘hacks and tricks’.

Get your copy of HOOKED here

 

The Game – Neil Strauss

This is the classic tale of a guy who has entered the world of the pickup artists by befriending one of the most prominent at the time (Mystery).

Although this book is a little dated now, it shows a behind the scenes view of the world of the pick up artist. Including information on some of the big names.

This book isn’t about giving you tips or what to say etc. The lesson this book taught me was that ‘pick up’ is about is about becoming a better man, and essentially outgrowing ‘pick up’.

It’s worth a read. You can get your copy of THE GAME here

 

The Dating Playbook for Men – Andrew Ferebee

Like many, Andrew Ferebee has read and tried many different tactics and techniques when it comes to meeting women

And after letting it all simmer in his brain, the most important thing to him isn’t tips, routines or strategies… it’s being a grounded male

This book is about what’s inside you. And how to bring that when you’re out meeting women

On the con side, it is a little sales-y where the author plugs his programs at the end of the chapter

But despite this, it’s worth a read. It will help keep you grounded and it sets the tone for what is important when you meet a woman

Get your copy of The Dating Playbook for Men here

 

 

Sperm Wars – Robin Baker

Like David Deida, Robin Baker is not a pick up artist. But this book has done the rounds as well. It’s a real eye-opener when it comes to the science of sex

In fact, I’d even go so far as to say that unless you read this book, you don’t really understand the mechanics of sex

And by understanding the mechanics, you will understand more of the things that happen in interactions between you and the women you’re interested in

Because at the end of the day, sex is what it’s all about

For example, if you have ever wondered why a girl chases one particular guy but runs away from others then the answer is in this book

If you’re wondering if you can read and understand a science book (some of them are quite hard) this one is not all dry facts, big words and statistics.

Each chapter starts with a story, then an explanation. To be honest it is written well enough that an average reader will have no trouble understanding (I had no trouble)

Get your copy of SPERM WARS here

Thanks for reading…

If you haven’t read a book about pick up before, then I can confidently say that these books will change your life

Just like the pick up artists who wrote them, they can open a door to what feels like another world

They changed my life (for the better) and now I don’t know where I would be without them. I hope they have the same positive influence on your life too.

10 of the Best Books on Female Psychology – An Updated List

Best Books on Female Psychology - Man and Woman Reading

Best Books on Female Psychology - Man and Woman Reading

SHE SEEMS HAPPY… but what is going through her mind?

  • Why did she break up with me?
  • What has made her go so distant all of a sudden?
  • Why is she with that guy?

If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions then this (updated) list is going to transform your life.

It contains the best (in my experienced and honest opinion) advice, information and education on women and why they do what they do

Some are new, some are classic books on female psychology. But they all have great ideas, concepts and insights to help you understand the women in your life…

1. For men only: A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women – Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn

Think you know what she truly wants and needs from you?

For Men Only unlocks many of the mysteries that tend to keep the average man in the dark. Especially when it comes to building a deeper and more meaningful relationship with women.

You can expert to learn about what women think their insecurities are and what they mean when they use the term ‘security’ (which is very important to them)

From the best-selling author of “For Women Only”, this easy to read the book is full of practical information. With no real scientific language, it’s something any man can read today and feel more in charge of their relationships with women.

Get your copy of For Men Only here.

Pros Cons
Easy to read Over-simplified writing style
Includes a “Quick-Start” guide Denigrating language towards women
Plenty of practical information Written from Christian POV may not be for everyone

2. Crack the Secret Girl Code – Michael Fiore

Crack the Girl Code - Michael Fiore

Learn How to Push the Right Buttons

Crack the Girl Code is an online training program that provides men with “code cheats” designed to help get inside the minds of women. It focuses on creating an instant connection while at the same time increasing her sexual desires.

The course covers techniques to help you push three crucial buttons in a woman’s mind to make her feel that special connection and desire you.

Crack the Girl Code covers how to make that connection by making her feel as though you understand her better than anyone else. It also covers conversation tips to turn her on and how to make a woman feel like she is destined to be with you.

Several bonuses are included such as “How to avoid the Friend Zone.” You can find more information on exactly what else is included at the website here. (It gets a bit weird with the puppets)

Pros Cons
Perfect for the beginner No online forum for more help and information
Digital version for online reading Not for those who “think,” they are always right
60- day money back guarantee Not an “Instant” cure, it takes time for perfection

3. The Female Brain – Louann Brizendine

Science answers the question “What does a woman want?”

No matter what your current relationship status, this book will help you to gain a better understanding of the complexities of the female brain, in an easy to read and understand format

The Female Brain answers many questions you might have but were afraid to ask. Among those questions are, “Why do women tend to be more verbal than most men?” or “Why do women form stronger bonds with their female friends than guys do with their male friends?”

Find the answers to these questions and many more in between the covers of The Female Brain.

Pros Cons
Easy to understand, non-scientific language Contains inaccurate information in places
Should read by both women and men Fails to cover the elderly female brain
Concepts backed by medical science Stereotypes women a little

4. What Women Want When They Test Men – Bruce Bryans

How to decode a woman’s behavior and pass their “secret” tests


It only makes sense that women test men. But do you know how to recognize when you are being tested and how to react to it?

In the book, you will learn about the three “C”s, Congruence, Compliance, and Commitment, which are the three tests most women use.  

If you have ever been dumped by a woman, the book can show you how not to accept being treated this way. As well as how to start being treated in a manner of which you are deserving.

Crack the code and get your copy of What Women Want When They Test Men here.

Pros Cons
Follow up to What Women Want in a Man From a very dominating male point of view
Identifies the three “C”s women use to test men Might be best for short-term relationships
Teaches you to be a strong, confident man Repetitive in places

5. What Women Want in a Man – Bruce Bryans

Become the Alpha male women desire


In What Women Want in a Man, Bruce Bryan discusses the most important thing a woman wants in a man

And how communication and confidence are important, but not as important as her #1 primal drive. 

On the practical side, you will find ten ways you can start working on making the changes needed to make you a “woman magnet.” Learn why the “Nice Guy” always seems to finish last and end up alone rather than with the woman of his dreams.

Most importantly of all, learn how to become an Alpha Male, one that is more assertive and who is far more likely to be attractive to women. Discover what she really wants in What Women Want in a Man here

Pros Cons
Covers the traits most women are attracted to in simple manner Poorly written using a lot of generalities
Not filled with tricks and gimmicks that don’t work Repetitive information
Focuses on the male side of the relationship A little shallow

 

6. Make Her Crave You – Greg Hart

Make Her Crave You - Greg Hart

Are you a guy with his life together… well all except one part?

Make Her Crave You is more like a beginners system to help guide you through how to reveal that part of you that women want to see.

In this way, it’s more focused on guys who are successful in other parts of their lives.  And just need to sort out their relationship.

You won’t get any scripted lines here. In fact, the book is written on the premise that men simply have a problem demonstrating their worth to women (which I agree is a big problem that guys have). It’s not about changing you, more enhancing.

Make Her Crave You will challenge your beliefs and take you out of your comfort zone, so it isn’t for everyone. Get your copy here

Pros Cons
No lines or magic tricks A little dated
Focused on attracting the women you want Some parts are repetitive
Bonuses included A little more expensive than some other options

7. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus – John Gray Ph.D.

#1 New York Times bestseller

This is the classic book on the subtle differences between women and men. So not only do you get to understand females better, you understand yourself as well

It has been updated, but the information is as good today as when it was first released. It covers how both sexes prefer to interact with each other, as well as how we think differently. And if you’ve ever heard of the ‘points system’ couples use, I believe it started here

There are a lot of analogies and John Gray has a great way of painting pictures in the reader’s mind to help explain topics

Get your copy (if you don’t already own it) of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus here

Pros Cons
Easy and entertaining read A little oversimplified
Chapters focused on language are good Parts on keeping love alive may not be relevant
Examples given Advice taken from observation rather than research

8. The Female Brain (Movie) – Whitney Cummings

A movie about why women do what they do

I know this list is about books… However, if you’re looking for a different perspective on learning about female psychology you might like this (even if it’s just for a change)

The Female Brain is loosely about understanding why women make the choices they make

The star (Whitney Cummings) plays a brain researcher who is explaining the different parts of the two brains (male and female) in this way.  Then there are examples played out by the couples

It’s light-hearted and good to watch with friends. It’s aimed at more of a chick flick audience but it can be good to go ‘undercover’ and learn from these types of resources occasionally. See it here

Pros Cons
Entertaining and light-hearted Not a book
Informative ‘Chick flick’ might put some guys off
A different take on what can be a dry subject Not as actionable and straightforward advice as others on this list

9. My Secret Garden – Nancy Friday

Where other books dare to tread

Written in the 1970s, Nancy Friday thought it would be a good idea to start documenting women’s fantasies. So she put an ad in the local classifieds and this book is what came back

My Secret Garden is a great book. And I recommend it, especially if your a guy who puts women up on a pedestal. It gives a real look at women and what drives them from this unique angle (their fantasies and innermost thoughts). It’s a real eye opener

Well worth the read but read it somewhere private. It is very graphic so that may or may not be to some peoples taste

Get your copy of My Secret Garden here

Pros Cons
Entertaining read Very graphic language
Informative No real ‘how to’ style content, more story based
Open and honest You’ll never look at women the same way again (might be a good thing)

10. The Language of Lust – Lawrence Lanoff

The Language of Lust - Lawrence Lanoff

Does talking about sex with women scare you?

Many guys aren’t sure of how to broach the subject of sex with women.

And although it’s only a small thing, it can leave you feeling like you’re missing out on something…

If this is you then The Language of Lust is a MUST READ.

Inside you will learn how to deal with your emotions as well as what to say and do with techniques you can use.

It will help you understand where she is coming from and how to interact with her around the topic of sex and intimacy (which can be a big sticking point for guys)

It isn’t for beginners or those with little to no experience with women, but if you’re up for the challenge the rewards are there. Get your copy here.

Pros Cons
Lots of practical application techniques here Not for beginners or guys that haven’t much experience with women
Great advice on the correct way to be outwardly sexual with women A little dated
Bonuses included The membership site is hard to navigate

In Summary…

The ten resources above are a crash course in what makes women tick, and why they do what they do.

If you were to only read one or two, you would be in the top 99% of men who don’t have a clue about the women in their lives. Many time the information in books on female psychology like these has helped me understand what has happened in my relationships

And that removes a lot of the negative emotion and guesswork that I see many guys still doing. My advice is to buy all of these and save yourself the 5 years of rejection and family visits alone. But that’s just me.

If you have a question about any of the resources above, then contact me here

My 10 Best Books on Pleasing a Woman – An Updated List

Books on how to please a woman - Woman sitting on edge of bed

Books on how to please a woman - Woman sitting on edge of bed

LEARNING ABOUT WOMEN ISN’T LIKE learning about other subjects

  • You can’t really ask her what she wants (she doesn’t know)
  • It’s hard to find other guys who will actually help you
  • And your friends probably don’t know what to do either

It can feel like you are either born with it or you aren’t

But rest assured there is help for the rest of us. Here are 10 books, videos, and other resources, to help you really understand what’s going on with her…

And how to make her happy, and loyal. Go through these and you will be the man that she will always remember, and never want to leave

1. She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman – Ian Kerner

Are you  “Ill-Clit-erate?”

If you are like most guys you may have far more idea of what hides under the hood of your car or the box on your computer than what goes on under the hood of the female clitoris.

Ian explains that for a woman, sex is more than foreplay and intercourse; it’s a complete package from start to climax.

She Comes First is a virtual encyclopedia of how to pleasure a woman, covering dozens of techniques that have been proven to work time and time again. Learning how to pleasure a woman can turn you into the man that she can’t stop thinking about.

Get your copy of She Comes First here

Pros Cons
Contains detailed instructions Poorly organized
Covers the art and science behind sex Repetitive
Shows you how to succeed without toys Deals mainly with oral sex

2. The Way of the Superior Man – David Deida

How to become a man’s man and more

In “The Way of the Superior Man,” author David Deida takes an in-depth look at every aspect of men’s lives.

He covers issues such as career and family, love and spirituality, and women and love. Deida offers advice designed to help men learn how to live a more masculine life. One of authenticity, integrity, and freedom.

The chapters are short and to the point, making the book easy to read. Providing you read the entire book and apply the lessons, you will find yourself becoming a far more confident man who is ready to take charge of his life.

I have this book in my bookshelf, you can get your copy here

Pros Cons
Chapters are short and to the point Ideas are somewhat archaic  
Helpful for those looking to build a long-term relationship Repetitive and excessive use of filler
Shows men how to focus on their relationship and to take more responsibility for it Overly simplistic writing style

3. Various DVD’s – Welcomed Consensus

Sex Ed. for visual learners

I know I said books but these DVD’s deserve their place in this list.

I first found Welcomed Consensus a few years ago. And when it comes to teaching sex and the woman’s body, I don’t think anyone does it with as much detail

Personally, I found it valuable because when you are ‘in the moment’ you may only have a small window to get it right. Whereas these DVD’s slow things down and show exactly what you should be doing, for how long, when to stop, etc.

Some may see it as porn, but I would classify it more as ‘instruction manual DVD’

If you need simple instructions with plenty of visuals, then this is the place for you. They have their entire catalog available here, as well as a few choice videos on Amazon

Pros Cons
Extreemly detailed Very graphic (not for everyone)
Simple to understand The production level isn’t great
Answers a lot of questions Videos are shortish (30mins)

4. The Language of Lust – Lawrence LanoffLanguage of Lust - Michael Fiore

Lawrence has written the upgrade most guys are looking for when it comes to getting more and better sex.

The book/program is set around the idea that the physical attraction isn’t everything. In fact, it is only a single part of the experience for a woman, and women get turned on more by the ‘story’ or lead up than by the act.

On the more practical side, there are plenty of techniques which make things easy to remember. It’s a great resource for men, single or partnered.

Get your copy of The Language of Lust here

Pros Cons
Plenty of techniques No hard copy available, only digital
Easy to understand A little dated
60-day money back guarantee Membership site hard to navigate

5. My Secret Garden – Nancy Friday

More than erotica, a real-life view of women’s sexual fantasies

Some see My Secret Garden as one of the most sexually freeing books written, while others see it as no more than pornography

My Secret Garden is in fact “a collection of women’s sexual fantasies,” which due to the nature of the topic is certain to be at least somewhat erotic

Although it’s a little dated, it’s rare that you will find women openly sharing their innermost thoughts, so there are new insights for men here. And I really like how straightforward and honest it has been compiled

My Secret Garden can enhance not only sex lives but also relationships and provide a deeper understanding into the so-called fairer sex. Get your copy here.

Pros Cons
Entertaining read No real practical element
Great insights into women Very graphic language
Informative  Gets a bit weird in parts

6. Sex, Your Woman and You – Don Asterwood

Don Asterwood has put together a real guide on how the average guy can please a woman

And his answer lies in three areas. Having confidence, the correct knowledge and applying the right technique

Much of what we learn from friends and movies is not really correct and doesn’t work as intended. This book aims to dispell those myths and show you what works.

It’s written in a language that’s easy to read and upfront about the advice in it. Get your copy of Sex, Your Woman and You here

Pros Cons
Easy to read Very specific about sexual knowledge
Frank everyday language This author may not be for everyone
Plenty of content in the book Not for advanced ‘users’

7. 500 Lovemaking tips – Michael Webb

500 Lovemaking Tips & Secrets

Is the sizzle between you and your woman starting to fade?

If you have been looking for ways to spice up your love life, 500 Lovemaking Tips is sure to help.

Filled with 500 tips & strategies that are easy to put into action, with step-by-step instructions to help ensure you understand each tip. The descriptions are well thought out and easy to follow, with as much detail as is needed to ensure you comprehend the entire concept.

Keeping the spark alight in your relationship can be challenging, especially if you have been together for a long time. By following these tips, you can rekindle the flame and turn it into a towering inferno.

Get your copy of 500 Lovemaking Tips by Michael Webb here

Pros Cons
Based on real-life experiences Takes a lot of reading
Easy to understand Only available as an eBook
Guaranteed results (money back) Can be overwhelming

8. Revolutionary Sex – Alex Allman

revolutionary sex - Alex Allman

Three Ways to Give a Woman the Best Orgasms She Has Ever Had

This is an excellent guide to sex for beginners to help them learn what it takes to truly satisfy a woman in bed.

You will learn how to overcome issues that stop a woman from having an orgasm and men from gaining an erection. Revolutionary Sex teaches you about the female anatomy and how to locate the “G-Spot.”

Learn about “sexual trust” and the importance for a woman to be unable to tell her partner about her sexual needs. Revolutionary Sex explains the importance of oral sex and how to perform it on both men and women.

The book also includes a female and male version as an audiobook. Available here

Pros Cons
Focus is on most important parts of sex Not exactly revolutionary information
Comes with male and female audio version Distinct lack of diagrams
Detailed instructions Text can be challenging to read

9. 100 Great sex games for couples – Michael Webb

100 Great Sex Games for Couples

More fun in the bedroom

100 Great Sex Games for Couples offers more than just 100 games for you and your partner to inject into your sex life.

There are plenty of books that do just that and nothing more. Author Michael scoured the world to find the best sex games, added a few of his own and unleashed it on an unsuspecting public.

The games in this book are refreshingly new, are not complicated or difficult to prepare for, and are neither degrading nor immoral. Treat your partner to some of the hottest sex they have ever experienced and leave them wondering who the new you is.

When your ready to play, your copy of 100 Great Sex Games for Couples is here

Pros Cons
Available as a PDF download Only available online
Easy to understand Contains 33 games and 67 variants
60-day money back guarantee Requires a lot of creativity and imagination

10. Turn Your Wife into Your Own Personal Sex Kitten – Michael Fiore

Text Your Wife Into Bed - Michael Fiore

Purrrrr!!!!

Text Your Wife into Bed will show you how to have your special lady seeing you as her personal love god all through the power of the simple text message.

Author Michael Fiore teaches you a variety of different ways you can text your wife that will turn them on and make them want you.

Success is achieved by following the four-step process in the book. The process is laid out in easy to understand language. Once you purchase the program, you get an audio file, a video, and the PDF to download. Get yours here

Pros Cons
Easy to follow and understand Success takes time and patience
Proven track record of success Use of “dirty” language
60-day money-back guarantee Only works for those who like texting

In Summary…

If you read, listened to and watched everything here, I cannot see you having a problem with pleasing women in your future

The truth is that pleasing women doesn’t start in the bedroom. It’s the type of man you are and how you treat your woman. I think as a whole, these books and resources reflect that

Now go and study and make that woman feel the way she deserves

If you are looking for resources on how to meet women then these books are more for you

Any questions on this article, the best books on pleasing a woman, contact me here

How to be Confident with Women & 2 Tips to Hack Your Self-Esteem

How to be confident with women - Guy talking to a group of girls doing cheers motion

How to be confident with women - Guy talking to a group of girls doing cheers motion

IF YOU ARE LIKE many guys trying to get better with women, you may think that all you need to appear more confident is do more:

  • Say more stuff to her
  • Have more techniques to approach her
  • Have more pickup lines

Unfortunately, talking too much is the perfect way to turn her off. A woman can always sense when you are over talking because you are nervous.

Why are guys nervous in the presence of women?

It is amazing how relaxed you are around your colleagues and friends, but the moment a pretty girl shows up, you are completely intimidated. Some of the reasons why guys clam up when they are in the presence of girls include:

Putting her on a pedestal

If many guys were to be honest, beautiful girls intimidate them because they (guys) put the girl on a pedestal before they even know her.

They feel as if the girl is a goddess and that they have to prove themselves and impress. Thinking like this will put a lot of pressure on a guy who thinks he always has to impress her and get her to like him.

The cure

Some will say that simply thinking this way ridiculous and you should try to talk yourself out of it. But from my experience this doesn’t work. The cure here is to meet (and date) more beautiful women. So that one exposure to a pretty woman isn’t as much of a big deal.

Being too hard on yourself

Many guys’ worst enemy is their own opinions about themselves.

You have a constant stream of thoughts that point out how less than perfect you are. You dwell on how you aren’t good looking; how you have physical flaws that need to be fixed; how you are a loner; that you have never kissed a girl; and that you are a loser…..

If you are too hard on yourself, you become insecure and eventually sabotage any chance you may have to be confident with girls.

The cure

While confidence and personality are more attractive to a girl than the things you are dwelling on. And you should consider for a minute that your looks and accomplishments probably don’t matter to a girl nearly as much as you think they do.

It’s hard to actually put in place. But I do have one way to fix this which is a bit of a weird one but it worked for me. Ready…

Create a different personality.

Yep. Instead of simply having you. Have different “you’s”. For instance if your name is John, you now have everyday “John”. And also “Good Time John”.

Everyday you is kinda shy around new people. He does his work and takes care of business at home, at work etc.

Good Time John goes out at night and has fun. He foremost interest is in having a good time and people who want to have a good time.

This is an overly simple explanation, but the theory behind it has helped me personally in many ways.

How to be confident with women - Guy singing karaoke with women
Singing can be seen as a sign you are confident… even if you are not a great singer

How to be confident around women

Everyone has their insecurities.

Being confident around beautiful women is not about never feeling insecure. It is about being comfortable in your own skin, and not allowing your insecurities get in the way of your pursuing girls that you are attracted to.

All confidence is acquired and developed. No man is born with confidence.

One big misconception by men that sabotages their efforts is that men have to do something to get the girl. Whether that is impress or talk or demonstrate something, etc.

Truly confident guys know that they DO NOT have to do anything. That it will happen naturally.

Analyze and destroy your self-sabotaging beliefs

Insanity is defined as doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. If you have been struggling with feeling confident around girls, it only makes sense to see what scares you and where it comes from.

For instance, let’s say you have approach anxiety. Have you ever stopped to contemplate why you have it? Why should it be so hard to walk up and say ‘hi?’

Maybe in the back of your mind you think that people are out to get you because you were abused or bullied in your past. Or perhaps you are scared by women because your mother smothered you as a child and you always feel inferior around girls.

If you taketime to conduct a thorough analysis, you would possibly realize that most of your anxiety has nothing to do with the girl standing in front of you.

Instead it comes from experiences at various stages of your youth and adolescence. If you objectively examined what went wrong and sought for ways to deal with your past situations, you would move forward in your dating life.

Manage your expectations

Many guys fear to go to women out of fear of rejection. They are insecure, and they take rejection too seriously. Expecting to always score a date or a relationship after approaching a girl is putting way too much pressure on yourself.

Change your mindset. The worst thing that a girl can do is to say no.

The first thing you need to realize is that rejection is not personal and it may be as a result of things you have absolutely no control over.

Regardless of your game or lack thereof, many times you will be rejected. Rejection is not meaningful until you empower it.

Also, do not put too much meaning into your interaction with her. Would you care if a random guy you did not know decided that he did not particularly like you? Then, why do you allow the opinion of a girl you have only briefly interacted with matter so much to you?

Treat an attractive girl the same casual way you would treat a friend or an unattractive girl.

Do not pedestalize the girl

The ability to take a girl off the pedestal is the difference between being successful with girls and being unsuccessful.

Treating the girl you are attracted to like a regular person and not like an idol is critical to your success. Treat her with dignity and respect her, but do not let her hold power over you while you grovel at her feet.

As stated above the best way to cure this is to meet more women. The more interactions you have, the less important each one becomes.

Take it one step at a time

The idea of approaching a woman and carrying out a conversation beyond the initial ‘hi’ can be daunting for many guys. However, you can gain confidence in your conversation skills through practice.

Start by saying hi’ to women as you walk down the street. You don’t even have to start a conversation; just smile, say ‘hi’ and don’t break your stride.

This may sound all too simple but make a habit of it. Get friendly with the girls you regularly see; at the coffee shop, the fast food place, the library. Make a few remarks as you order: get them to make a suggestion and engage them in a brief chat. With time, you will get comfortable talking to women, and you will build some confidence.

Gradually start to throw out some banter and then seek to further the interaction by making the conversation personal. Within no time, you will find that you can build sexual tension.

The point is always seeking to build your skills by taking your next interaction a step further than the previous one. Keep at this, and you will be confidently talking to women in no time.

Just go for it

When you want to approach a woman, you probably find yourself hesitating.

Unfortunately, when you hesitate, your mental barrier kicks into place. It becomes even harder to approach the girl. The longer you think about whether you should approach a girl or not, the more anxious you will feel. As such, you need to act more upon that first impulse.

Your first impulse is your best shot at actually approaching and talking to a girl. All the thinking that you do after the initial intention to approach only serves to scare you.

If you don’t move fast, you will either talk yourself out of approaching the girl or do it awkwardly. If you wait to feel utterly confident to approach a girl, the chances are that it will never happen. Give yourself a few seconds and get your feet moving towards the girl.

Momentum is an incredible thing. It is hard to get moving, but once you start moving, it is hard to stop.

One last tip

Do you still need some extra push to gain confidence? You can use affirmations before approaching the girl. Tell yourself something positive:

The outcome doesn’t matter; I am sexy; women enjoy talking to me.

Have a few affirmations that resonate with you to get motivated to get out there and do it.

The final approach

The beauty with approaching women is that there is so much you are in control of:

  • You decide whom to approach
  • Your attitude towards the girl
  • Where you are comfortable approaching
  • How long you want the interaction to last
  • How you treat the outcome of the interaction

When you realize how much power you have over the situation, you will feel empowered and much more confident to approach girls.

Do not give your power away by pedestalizing the girl, looking down upon yourself and assigning too much meaning to rejection.

How to Flirt with a Girl You Like

How to flirt with a girl you like - girl walking on a beach

How to flirt with a girl you like - girl walking on a beach

MAYBE SHE IS…

  • A friend of a friend
  • Someone you have seen around at school or work
  • Or a gorgeous girl you have just seen strolling by the beach

You psych yourself up, find the courage to approach her and initiate a conversation…

You get off to a good start: she is receptive, she is smiling and nodding.

However, a few minutes in, you can feel the energy plateau. And just like that, she excuses herself saying that she is waiting for a friend and she has to make a call.

What just happened?

Flirting

Flirting is a low-risk method of initiating a conversation with a girl you are attracted to. The goal here is for her to want to spend more time with you. Flirting does this by being fun, playful and creating an enjoyable experience.

A side benefit is that flirting creates sexual tension which can make the girl instantly attracted to you.

It also communicates that you are confident, trustworthy and have something to offer, which is essential.

The art of flirting

A guy who has mastered flirting has the ability to seduce a girl without saying a word.

To flirt successfully, there are two conversations taking place simultaneously: the verbal and nonverbal. Many guys fail at flirtation because they emphasize on the verbal, while it is the nonverbal that is more important.

Did you know: Flirting is also crucial for long-lasting relationships?

Flirting is not only helpful in initiating dating, but it also helps partners to remain interesting to each other. It also helps to avoid getting trapped in a rut even after they have been in a relationship for a long time.

If you want to hone your flirting skills, consider the following suggestions.

Approach the girl

This may seem like an easy step, but it is where many guys fail.

Approaching the girl is the most challenging part of initiating contact. Some guys get stuck in their head, and instead of psyching themselves up, they end up thinking about all the reasons why the girl may not want to talk to them.

So, before you can convince yourself otherwise, you just have to walk up to the girl.

The safest way to approach

How do you determine whether the girl is open to your approach?

Make eye contact with her, and smile a couple of times. If she reciprocates, she is giving you an invitation to come over. You can then walk up to her.

LINK: More information on approaching girls

In any case, approach her anyway. You have nothing to lose. A few words and a few minutes are all you need to know if she is interested in you or not.

How to flirt with a girl you like - guy and girl fliring in a library

Body language

If you are interested in a girl, you want to make sure you do not give off any signs of nervousness or discomfort.

Ensure your body is relaxed, your hands are visible, and your demeanor is pleasant. Bear in mind that you can say a lot with your body language, so ensure you say all the right things.

Above all, learn how to create sexual tension with body language.

Eye contact

The basic technique of any flirting is eye contact. Eye contact is a strong gesture, it can communicate many different things: trust, charisma, loyalty, contempt.

When you meet a girl’s gaze, do not lower your eyes; look at her for a while and then look away. A good rule of the thumb for eye contact is 1-2 seconds before looking away.

You can also use the ‘staring competition’ tactic. This happens when you are flirting with a girl, and you look into her eyes, and then she happens to look at you, and your eyes meet up. The question is: who will look away first?

You should not be the one to look away first; this is a sign of submission. But as soon as she looks away, break the eye contact as well or you will appear creepy.

The smile

Smiling is one of the easiest ways to make a girl know that you are interested in her. However, some experts indicate that a huge, gleaming, pearly, white smile might communicate desperation.

They instead recommend a smirk. A smirk is the standard smile’s seductive brother.  Remember, everything you do must have a sexual undertone. You want to be James Bond, not Jim Carrey.

Gentle touches

The touch is one of the most powerful forms of romantic communication. You must calibrate your touch depending on the emotional distance between you and the girl.

Touch ranges from a handshake, a pat on the shoulder, a light push, a hug from the side, to a full hug. So, look for opportunities to touch the girl lightly, sometimes accidentally.

Some examples are:

  • Shake hands when you first introduce yourself
  • Place your hands on her arms to gently move her because someone is passing
  • Tap her arm lightly when sharing a laugh
  • Put your hand on her lower back while guiding her through ahead of you
  • Push her if she teases you back

Give the girl compliments

Giving a girl compliments is one of the easiest ways of flirting with her. An effective compliment simply means picking something that you like about the girl and telling her you to like it. All you need to do is to ensure that you are genuine about it.

  • I saw you over here and just had to tell you that I like your style.

(Revealing that you noticed the girl will make her feel good about herself and like you more)

  • Your eyes are gorgeous.

(This one will work best if you say it with enthusiasm and excitement)

  • I love your jacket.

(This is a good one for initiating touch. Touching her arm lightly is a safe option)

The trick to giving compliments is to avoid being too generous with them because then you will not sound sincere. Also, ensure your compliments are not generic.

Teasing the girl

One of the most efficient ways to get a girl’s attention is by teasing her. However, ensure that you do not go overboard or the girl will feel insulted.

  • Are you trying to break the world shopping record?
  • Your fur coat made me think of a bear……… did you kill it yourself?
  • I like your smile, but I think you have something in your teeth (only use when she has something in her teeth)
  • You’re from Canada? Is it true that Canadians keep a bottle of maple syrup on them at all times?

The secret with teasing a girl is not even what you say, as much as how you say it.

If you are not sure you can deliver teases neatly, avoid them altogether. Otherwise, she might find them insulting

Flip the ‘frame’

In the natural progression of relationships, the guy is supposed to chase the girl and prove to her that he is worthy of being chosen by her.  But these days it’s important that you also see yourself as the ‘prize’.

Increase your value and make the girl qualify herself; of course, all this is done in a flirt.

For instance, you can invite the girl over for a movie and popcorn but only if she promises not to touch you.

This may appear to be counter-intuitive, but it works very well because you communicate with a girl that she needs to work for you because you are ‘of value’.

  • You look like trouble!
  • You are not one of those stalker types: are you?
  • Let us take this slowly…. I do not want to get hurt.
  • Hey, my eyes are up here *point to face*. (For when you catch her looking down – even at the ground)

Bridging (the new ‘close’)

Closing is what salespeople call going in for the sale. And some dating experts call going for the phone number ‘a close’.

But the truth is that you never really ‘close’ in relationships. Closing is finishing and you want to see her again (otherwise you probably wouldn’t be reading this). So instead you want to create a bridge to the next interaction

If everything has gone according to plan up to this point, the girl is probably waiting for you to ask for her number. Go ahead and do exactly that.

This is important! It lets her know that you are genuinely interested. She also thinks of it as testing your reliability.

If you are feeling good about the interaction you will have no problem asking for her number:

  • Tell her you enjoyed the interaction but you have to leave
  • Tell her that you should do this again sometime
  • Ask for her number / or suggest a date
  • Smile

Maggie, this has been so much fun, and we should do it again sometime, but I have to leave … I just need your number before I go. Smile.

Advanced Bridging

The best way I found was to bring up things that I or she likes doing or am going to do in the near future.

If I found that the topic of running was one we both clicked with, then I would maybe find out what time of the week she runs. Then I’d invite her to do it together. In a fun, flirty way.

  • ‘We should run together, I’m always looking for someone to hold my drink bottle.’
  • ‘I think I would run better with someone chasing me’

Don’t base your invitation around advice. Either asking for or giving her advice when you are bridging.

Women don’t like that. It’s more of a man thing. Instead, as in the examples, let her know that time with you will be full of fun and adventure.

Finally,

Like any other skill, flirtation demands practice. The more you flirt, the more your confidence grows. You do not have to wait to flirt with girls that you are attracted to. Whenever the opportunity arises, walk up to a woman, make contact, talk to her for a bit and watch your confidence grow.

You are also making the world a better place, one smile at a time.

With time, you will realize that you can be yourself in the presence of a gorgeous woman, and not only have a conversation with her but also flirt your way to attraction. Happy flirting!

How To Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend – 8 Tips to Help You Move On

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YOU HAD AMAZING unforgettable experiences together and you love everything about her….

There’s just one problem; she has told you that it’s over. You start wondering how things got this far.

If it is of any consolation, even the best guys will sometimes mess up with a girl they love and make her run. The good news is that she does not equal happiness. And one day, you will be glad that you went through this, because it made you a better man.

The probable causes for losing your woman

If you can’t get over a girl, this is the clearest indication that you dropped the ball in a big way.

However, are you aware of precisely what it is you did that messed up your relationship?

Experts in relationship repair say that many guys always think that one blow up conversation ended things. There was a big fight, you said some stupid things, and she left.

You could not be further from the truth; if you think that a single conversation drove your girlfriend out, you are deluded. It was not the one text: the one argument; the mischosen words. It was a culmination of how you have been treating her.

  • She started feeling like you did not want her. This one happens a lot. If at some point you stopped putting in as much effort and probably started ignoring, her that is where you lost her.
  • She started feeling hurt, disrespected and insulted. This is one is common with guys who are insensitive and trying to manifest their ‘bad boy’ qualities. If you keep making a girl feel ugly and inadequate around you, you will lose her faster than you can imagine.

Whichever it was, the damage is done, it’s time to learn and move on…

1. Get yourself together

The end of your relationship can make you feel worse than just about anything else. You must realize that you will go through periods of grief namely:

  • Denial
  • Anger
  • Negotiation
  • Depression         
  • Acceptance    

If you want to succeed, do not panic. Get yourself together and do not do anything stupid. Remember, any girl would never want to be with you when you are in a state of anger, rage, self-pity or despair.

It is during the first three stages that you are likely to lose control of your will power by:

  • Begging and asking for pit
  • Feeling lonely although you have friends
  • Thinking your ex is going to solve all your problems if she decides to get back with you
  • Disrespecting your ex and calling her names

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Doing things by yourself is a good way to create some distance from your ex girlfriend and give yourself some perspective on your life

2. Create distance

You may think that you can be friends with your ex. If you think this, then here is a small section just for you.

Give your girlfriend some space and time. Experts talk about a ’no contact’ rule during which you do not speak to your girlfriend for a period of time.

Not being in contact with her for that long will be tough and it will hurt, but it will certainly give you room for reflection and help you to cool down your temper. Staying away from your girlfriend will:

  • Help you avoid looking needy and insecure. Bear in mind that neediness and insecurity are the biggest attraction killers.
  • Give you time to learn more about how to get your ex-friend back.
  • Give her the time and opportunity to realize how amazing you actually are, to miss you, and realize that she really lost a friend.
  • Create ‘fear of loss’ in your ex-girlfriend, and she might start second-guessing her decision.

Staying away from her increases your chances of getting her back.

3. What should you do if she contacts you

The ‘No contact’ rule does not mean that your girlfriend cannot reach out to you. Indeed, if she calls, this is excellent for this situation.

If you follow the plan and stay away from your ex-girlfriend, it is likely that the fear of losing you will make her contact you. However, when you pick her calls, or she visits you:

  • Let her lead the conversation
  • Make sure to act happy and cheerful
  • Make sure you keep the conversation short
  • End the conversation first. Say something like:
      • I am going out with a friend, I will call you later
      • It was nice talking to you, but I have to…………..
  • Take time to call her back. Do not be eager to call her; wait at least a day.

The dont’s when your girlfriend contacts you.

Do not:

  • Act angry and depressed
  • Be immature, telling her how many women you are sleeping with
  • Talk about the relationship at all
  • Ask her whether she is dating or sleeping with someone else
  • Beg her to give you another chance

If she does not contact you, you will contact her at the end of the ‘no contact’ four week’s period

4. Be honest about why the relationship broke up

If you hope to build a healthy relationship with your ex-girlfriend ever again, you must admit that you messed up. Have you been treating her right, or have you:

  • Been neglecting her, either subtly by not listening to her, or by disrespecting her?
  • Were you perhaps insecure and jealous?
  • Might you have been manipulative and controlling?
  • Did you cheat on her?

Whatever it is you were doing, you might have thought that you were getting away with it but were not. The things she shrugged off from day to day built to a crescendo and she decided that she deserved to be treated better.

5. Take time to build yourself up

Working on your inner demons. So, hit the gym, take some classes, and revive your passions and hobbies.

Take time and learn the tools and skills of keeping a healthy relationship and increase your level of awareness. This should not be a wasted opportunity; ensure you work on making yourself better.

The misconception

One of the biggest mistakes that guys make is thinking that they have nothing to change about themselves. This is a huge lie. No matter how many girls are drooling over you, you must continually strive towards becoming a better version of yourself.

6. Do not dwell on the breakup

Talk about the good times and great memories and what changed in your lives after the breakup.

7. Discuss everything: even the difficult subject

Do not avoid the difficult topics. Anything that you do not deal with conclusively will remain the elephant in the room. This is an opportunity to deal with all those things that you previously buried under the rag.

8. Move forward

A real gentleman learns from his mistakes, accepts his past, and moves on. Do not dwell on the mistakes you made in your earlier relationship with your ex-girlfriend. You cannot change the past.

And the truth is sometimes you have to make mistakes in a relationship to learn. It’s simply learning ‘the hard way.’

Not the final goodbye

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How to Approach a Woman – The 7 Traits of a Successful Single Man

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“HOW DO I APPROACH A WOMAN?” IS  probably the most common question asked by single guys everywhere.

The answer to successfully approaching a woman exists in your attitude.

And when I say attitude, I also mean your mindset/outlook/ethos.

It is your attitude when trying to attract a woman that determines how much success you will have. And this is where many guys go wrong; they try to figure out the appropriate pickup line, the perfect body language, or the classic joke.

Forget all that.

The only thing that matters when approaching a woman you like is your attitude. Develop the right attitude, and it will not matter how old, broke, fat, or intelligent you are.

As long as you have the wrong attitude: you think she is better than you, you feel that you do not deserve her, and doubt your abilities to attract her, you stand no chance.

Now is the time to get into the right mindset, get out there, and start meeting those remarkable women.

1. Confidence

Confidence is a strong presence and purpose in a guy that is often contagious.

Scientifically, confidence plays into women’s desire to want to mate with the leader of a pack. When a guy is confident, he makes those around him feed off his energy and feel empowered. Confidence draws girls in because it communicates that you are a guy worth liking.

The girl wants you to take the lead, but you cannot lead without confidence. If you have ever asked a girl ‘Where would you like to go?’ Most probably, you received the answer, ‘I don’t know. Why don’t you pick somewhere?’ In other words, she wants you to lead, even if she will probably never tell you.

Women want a man who can make plans and reach a decision. Even if she disagrees with your decision, she will tell you, but she will always respect that you take the lead.

From asking the girl out to making a move, to initiating sex… it will be your job to lead.

Remember, fortune respects the bold.

2. Conviction

Conviction is powerful. When you are approaching a girl, you must believe that you deserve her and you can win her over. Many guys are very good at coming up with excuses not to approach attractive girls:

  • She probably has a boyfriend.
  • She’s out of my league
  • I don’t want to make a fool of myself
  • She is probably sick of guys hitting on her

If you are not convinced that you can win girls over, you will always stand in the way of meeting amazing women.

There a huge difference between thinking, ‘I am the prize’ and ‘I am not good enough for the girl.’

One writer noted that the men of the previous generations when narrating how they met their wives always say something like:

“I noticed her in a local charity event in the neighborhood. I had never seen her before, but she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. She just lit up the room. I knew there, and then that I was going to marry her……’

This is the conviction that we are talking about. Having this kind of self-assurance that you are worthy of the girl is great. It gives you the confidence that you need to approach any girl and tell her how you feel.

3. Respect

Many guys think that women want to be with bad guys, but they could not be further from the truth. Girls are attracted to a man who shows them respect.

Some guys are yet to realize that yelling across the street, grabbing girls to dance and harassing them in public does not earn their attraction.

In fact here are some counter-intuitive ways that will show her you respect her and get her attention…

Apologize

When you approach a girl, apologize for bothering her before you say anything else. “Pardon me for interrupting…” “Excuse me, but…”

Introduce yourself

The next step is to introduce yourself so that she knows who you are. Do not launch into a speech you have planned before at least introducing yourself. “My name is Tom and I ….”

Choose your compliments wisely

The easiest way to make a girl feel insulted is by commenting on her body. Choose you compliments wisely otherwise, you will end up sounding like a jerk and offending the girl.

TIP – Comment on something she has done/chosen/earned. “I couldn’t help but notice the way you…”

Accept her decision

At any point during your interaction with a girl, you may be met with resistance. If she says no, do not be rude or mean about it. Tell her it was nice meeting her and be on your way.

Approach a woman with respect because if she respects herself, she is not going to accept anything less from you.

4. Mystery

Mystery brings excitement, uncertainty, and anticipation. Do not be a predictable guy doing what every other guy out there is doing. Be spontaneous and add some mystery to your ways.

If you are mysterious, it also eliminates the risk of coming across as needy or desperate. Surprising the girl with unexpected gestures will make her attracted to you.

Also, do not lay it all on the table during your first meeting with a girl. Keep a little to yourself so that you can intrigue her and make her want to know more about you. You should always send the message that there is more to you than meets the eye.

5. Loyalty

Many guys cannot keep themselves from flirting with every girl around them. You are eyeing a particular girl, and yet you are flirting with other women around her. What message are you sending her? That you are not ready for a committed relationship; that you are addicted to the attention; you are selfish, and you will neglect her in future?

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Do not show attention to other women

If you are clearly interested in a girl, do not give any attention to other women. When a girl realizes that you have eyes only for her, she cannot resist.

You can interact and socialize with other women but if there is a girl you like around, ensure that she gets the message that you only have eyes for her.

If you clearly send this message you can make her feel like the sexiest woman in the room, and she will definitely be interested in you:

  • Do not look other women up and down in front of her.
  • Do not watch other girls walk away
  • Ensure she is an integral part of the conversation
  • Acknowledge her more than the other women around.

6. Authenticity

Unfortunately, a lot of information out there on how to attract women is based on playing games. However, the games always end up more hurtful than attractive and women have become attuned to whether you are being yourself or not.

A girl will be more attracted to you when she is assured of not falling in love with a man who turns out completely different once he feels like he has her in his grip.

7. Patience

Many guys do not know how to hold back their desire for a girl. They come on entirely too strong too fast. They want to speed up their romantic and sexual encounters. Unfortunately, women are more process-oriented, and they are keen on the dates, conversations, and emotions.

Experts say that a guy can decide if he wants to have sex with a girl within a few seconds and he immediately shifts into finish line mode. Girls, on the other hand, take time to decide if they like a man because they take a lot of things into consideration.

In the initial stages, a girl just wants to have a good time. If you throw too much affection too fast, too soon, you will scare her off.

Take your time to ensure a girl is comfortable with you and feels secure before you can broach the subject of intimacy. Your interaction will be more meaningful when you allow it to develop organically.

Finally,

Have the attitude that you are taking a risk, like others that you have taken in other areas of your life. No guy goes ten for ten when approaching women.

This attitude will help you not to take rejection as a judgment on you as a person. If you allow rejection to shatter your self-esteem, you will never find that special woman.

So this is the right attitude when approaching a woman: it is a risk and rejection has nothing to do with you.

It is not your fault. It was probably bad timing, or she was having a bad day, or you probably resembled her nasty boyfriend (Yes, it could happen). Expecting success all the time is setting yourself up for emotional paralysis.

If you are after more information, here is what you can say to a girl you just met, and a few quick tips for shy guys when it comes to meeting women.

I hope this article has answered some of your questions on how to approach a woman.