“How to Know if You Like Someone?” – The 7 Tell-Tale Signs You Want More Than Her Friendship

How to Tell if You Like Someone - Two people sitting close to each other

How to Know if You Like Someone - Two people sitting close to each other

IT MAY SOUND STRANGE TO SAY that you do not know whether you like someone or not. ..

But the truth is that you can be completely ignorant of the fact that you have developed feelings for someone else.  Experts say that this happens the most with someone you have known for a long time.

Luckily, your body has some sneaky ways of tipping you off when you have romantic feelings for someone.

Your mind can play tricks on your feelings.

Another reason why it is important to be sure of the nature of the feelings you have for someone else is your very own brain.  Your brain can inhibit you from truly realizing your feelings for another person. For instance, you might be convinced that you cannot possibly have feelings for a certain person because of this or that reason.

Sometimes, you may also think that you have feelings for someone because you are lonely.  When you are lonely, you unconsciously search for companionship.  Maybe you like spending time with a certain individual because you do not want to be alone.

Explore your hidden feelings.

There are many signs that literally scream: ‘Hey, you like that girl!’  The trick is to pull down your blinders and examine how you truly feel about her.  And you must be willing to be completely honest with yourself.

Keep an eye on these telltale signs the next time you aren’t sure about your feelings for a certain woman.

You think about her… a lot

If you like a girl, you may feel like you cannot get her off your mind.  Scientists say that this is because when you like someone, your brain releases phenylethylamine; also known as the love drug.  This is the hormone that induces the feelings of infatuation with someone.

Fun Fact.  According to Helen Fisher, an anthropologist when you like someone, you spend 85% of your waking hours thinking about them.  

Everything reminds you of her

When you like a woman, your subconscious mind is constantly focused on her.  Every little thing you see reminds you of her: “Melissa would love this restaurant!’ ‘I wonder what she is doing.’  Even the book at the library seems like one she would be interested in. You keep having these little reminders because you think about that girl a lot and a part of you wants to be with her.

Fun Fact: “Phenylethylamine is also found in chocolate.  This may explain why you find it hard to stop after just one cube.

You are excited when she calls or texts you.

If you feel that what she has to say to you is more important than anyone else, the girl means something more to you.  It is as simple as that. Scientists believe that this single-mindedness results from elevated levels of central dopamine, a chemical that is involved in attention and focus in your brain.

You feel as if you are high when you are in their presence

It is completely normal to feel out of your mind when you are falling for some.  Scientists say that dopamine is responsible for this euphoria. When you are falling in love, there is heightened neural activity in the dopamine-rich areas of the brain.

Indeed, they further indicate that romantic feelings trigger activity in the area of the brain that is linked to obsessive thinking.

Research by Kinsey Institute revealed that the brain of a person who is falling in love resembles the brain of a person who has taken cocaine.  Dopamine is responsible for both situations. Is it any wonder people in relationships can sometimes act completely irrationally?

You just want her to be happy

Do you want to know you are falling in love?  It is not just about you anymore. Her happiness becomes really important to you.  You are willing to get out of your way to make her life easier and happier.

When her boss is treating her badly, you help her figure out what to do.  If she has a cold, you are at the store buying soup and crackers. When she gets into a fight with her sister, you distract her so that she can cheer up.

You are willing to bend your own rules and try new things.  ‘You want to eat at the vegetarian restaurant?’ ‘Yeah, sure!’  ‘And yoga afterward?’  ‘Of course.’  ‘Will you walk my dog tomorrow?’ ‘I would love to.’

Because you know what?  When she happy, laughing and so alive, there’s just nothing else like it.  This is love.

Research shows that people in love generally feel a strong sense of empathy towards their loved one.  They feel the other person’s pain as their own, and they will sacrifice anything for the other person.

You get jealous when you see her with someone else.

Do you get annoyed when you see her with someone else?  Jealousy is one of the most obvious signs that you like someone more than just as a friend.  Scientists say that people who are in love exhibit signs of possessiveness, jealousy, separation anxiety and fear of rejection.

Indeed, experts indicate that jealousy is actually healthy in the formation of relationships.  They say that jealousy is the adaptation that helps relationships to stay intact by making partners sensitive to potential threats.  Jealous people tend to be more committed to relationships.

You are completely engaged when you are with her

When you are with her, nothing else matters and time becomes irrelevant.

You will hardly notice the other people around you and you don’t remember to check your phone the entire time you are with her. As a matter of fact, there is nowhere else you want to be at that moment.

You are completely drawn to her, and you hang onto every word.  Your body language is different when with her. You find yourself leaning forward to listen more attentively.  She is like a magnetic pull that you have no desire or ability to stop.

In a study, researchers found that individuals who were in love found their passion involuntary and uncontrollable.  Many participants in the study expressed feelings of helplessness, indicating that their obsession was irrational and instinctive.

Indeed, they compare romantic love to addiction.  They say that lovers exhibit all the signs of an addict:

You feel a rush of exhilaration when thinking about her, you become obsessed with her, distort reality, change priorities or do extreme things to impress her or remain in contact with her.

Fun Fact: Romantic love is an addiction: a wonderful addiction when the relationship is going well, a horrible, disastrous, negative addiction when the relationship breaks down.  Lovers also relapse the way drug addicts do. After a relationship has ended, people, events, places, smells, songs associated with the abandoning partner still trigger memories.

So, you like her.  Now what?

Falling in love is a wonderful basis for a healthy relationship.  However, bear in mind that building a healthy relationship takes much more.  Before you approach the girl, remember that falling in love doesn’t last forever.

Scientists say that this phase is temporary and it either evolves into a long-term, codependent relationship that psychologists refer to “attachment” or it dissipates, and the relationship dissolves.

The staying power of your relationship takes commitment and mutual investment.


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