HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT to yourself that it was not possible to attract and date younger women? You think: ‘cute girls would never date an old geezer like me!’ Or ‘why should I bother approaching her? She’d just tell me that I am old enough to be her dad’.
You are so wrong
Let us get something straight. Young women are actually attracted to older men. Clinical psychologist, Sasha Lynn says that there are many reasons why young women are attracted to older men.
The older man is more confident and secure in himself and is more settled in his life and career. His life is much less chaotic, and he is perceived to be more experienced socially as well as sexually.
Many young women feel that guys their age just don’t ‘get it.’ They want an older man who is in control of himself and his environment.
Furthermore, many studies suggest that women mature faster than men. It is no wonder, therefore, that a younger woman might feel more comfortable with an older man.
A perfect match: Older men and younger women share the same need for connection.
Consider the following facts:
- Young women have a massive need for connection. While they are busy building their careers, their main focus is to create lasting relationships and establish a family.
- Young men, on the other hand, are more focused on the need for significance. As much as they may have relationships and want to have a family, their main focus is figuring a way to make it in the world.
- The older man has spent his youth looking for money and power, and he has probably achieved them. He is tired of the rat race, and he is looking for more connection.
A younger woman and an older man are compatible because they are both seeking for more connection. She wants to settle own. He may be wanting to start a second family so that he can get it right this time since he neglected the first one in pursuit for money and power.
How to attract younger women
Your age does not have to be the stumbling block to a beautiful relationship. Long lasting relationships are possible, even despite a huge age difference:
Donald and Melania Trump have an age difference of 23 years, George Clooney and his wife Amal have a 17 years age gap, Bruce Willis and Emma Heming have an age difference of 24 years, Alec Baldwin and Hilaria Thomas have an age difference of 26 years…. and the list is endless.
Indeed, your age can be to your advantage when you are seeking a younger woman.
Change your mindset
Many guys are attracted to younger women, but they refrain from approaching them because of societal programming.
- I shouldn’t date a woman that young. It is just not right.
- Everyone will think I am shallow if I date a woman that young.
- A relationship with a woman that young would never work. We are in completely differences places in life.
You can never have the younger woman that you desire if you harbor such thoughts in your mind. There is absolutely nothing wrong, immoral or unethical with wanting to date a younger woman. After all, we have already established that young women are very attracted to older men.
Act your age
Many older guys think that the way to attract a younger woman is by acting younger. This is not necessary. Trying to be something you are not is never attractive. Do not go around saying you are 29 while you are in fact 40, or telling people that you are 60, but you feel as if you are 35.
Embrace your age. Be who you are: you do not have to pretend to be what you are not to impress a younger woman. Remember, there are tons of younger women that are looking to date older guys. Pretending to act younger when you are an older man is an easy way to get rejected by younger women. Learn to play to your strengths instead of your weaknesses.
Ensure you are compatible
To stack the odds in your favor, ensure you share common interests with the younger woman. Sometimes, the generational differences can be huge, that you have to ensure there is enough potential for a long-term relationship if that is what you are after.
Further, ensure that she is not looking for a father figure. This is huge. Some girls have had bad relationships with their fathers, or they just never had fathers. Looking for an older man might be their way of looking for a father figure.
They are looking for a provider, a protector and someone to nurture them: someone to fill the gap. They are not looking for an equal relationship. This is not the kind of relationship you should sign up for. It will never work.
Ensure that she is not only open to dating an older man but that she understands the challenges that may come with it.
- Is she ready for people to say all sorts of things about your relationship?
- Will her parents and siblings might disapprove of the relationship?
- Is she comfortable hanging out with your older friends?
While you want to be mature and adult, get a renewed thinking: you must be adventurous and fun to be around. Young women are wild and adventure seekers. The best way to connect with them is ride on with their curiosity and imagination.
- Let her take you on adventures that you would never consider going on by yourself.
- Take the initiative; be exciting and daring and let her do things she never thought she would do before.
This is one of the most powerful things you can do to keep a young woman interested. You will both have a blast.
Be her rock
There is no doubt about it. While all women are emotional, a younger woman will have a lot of drama going on in her life. Whenever she freaks out about something, you must not let it get to you. Learn to stay calm. Do not try to fix her problems and do not try to stand in for daddy. That is one of the things she will love about you.
She will love that you can remain cool under any circumstances. Remember, one of the unique offerings you bring to the table as an older guy is your stability and non-judgment. So, be that rock and see what happens.
Keep the lines of communication open
The age differences might include differences in perceptions and role expectations. Discuss your expectations with her. Maybe she wants to have a child while you feel that you are past the age of having children. Talk as much as possible so that neither of you misunderstands the relationship.
Prepare yourself for continuous change
When you are dating a younger woman, remember that she probably still have a few years of figuring herself out. Keep an open mind and be ready to go with the flow. Do not restrict or hinder her options. Also, be prepared for the possibility that she may not be with you in the next few years.
Deal with this fact and be ready for it: New careers, new relationship expectations, new lifestyle and many other things will come into her life as she grows into a more mature woman.
How to deal with the “How old are you question.”
As we conclude, the question that older men dread the most when approaching a younger woman is the question: “Wait a minute, how old are you?”
Fear, nervousness, and embarrassment engulfs you and are at a loss how to exactly respond.
Should you tell your actual age and risk rejection
Should you simply lie and hope that she never finds out how old you really are?
The secret: Ask the question first
This helps you to beat her to the punch and ensures that she is on the defensive instead of you.
Envision the following conversation:
You: How old are you?
Her: (Truthfully her response doesn’t matter as you already know she is younger)
You: Oh, well…. You’re a bit too young for me. I don’t think a relationship with you would ever work.
Her: But… (She will try to qualify herself, listing all the reasons why the relationship between the two of you would actually work).
Do you see what is happening here? You are disqualifying her because of her age and using her young age as the reason why the two of you cannot hook up. You have flipped the script, and instead of chasing her, you now have her chasing you.
Not all women will want to date an older man, but there is many who will after their not so fulfilling experiences with guys their own age. So if you get a few weird responses then try somewhere else.